Why are you so quiet?

Studying pictures

Let me say, I am sorry for my silence. I am sorry for the quietness of my blog.

Since my return from Cape Town, I have braced myself and jumped, deep into my

Counselling/ Psychotherapy course.

For the last month, I have been studying every aspect of Psychotherapy on a Physiological,

cognitive, behavioural and humanistic approach to healing and embracing different techniques of


When I first started the course, I felt angry because, in some parts, it is so confusing but

as I began to relax into it, I started to enjoy, embrace and look forward to learning more from

my manual!

I submitted my 2 Assignments today, and the feedback from Healing hands, was excellent and well done,

I am very capable of doing my exams soon!  Deep breathe in! Deep breathe out! shooooo a relief!

Now to pick a date and time, to do my exam and then to wait 2 weeks for the confirmation of

pass, fail, redo!   —– > Embrace it all —once I decide.

Thinking cap on again…… compact more information into the brain then…..


With Love! Over and out….

The final stretch by Jenna @ ilovethemidlands.co.za

The final stretch

The final stretch
King Louis, for those of you who arent as Disney educated as my husband, that would be the orangutan from The Jungle Book…
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and also my nick name for the past few months:), because what are husbands for – if not blatant honesty!
With only 2 weeks to go until our expected due date, I feel more and more like King Louis each day – boep, a little jungle like in looks and a bit primal in behaviour.
I have never been a “regular” somewhere, now that we have in the Midlands for 2 & a bit years, we have grown to like places and people in the area that we tend to go back to – we have our favorite pizza & coffee places, hair dresser etc…
For me, one of these people who now knows me as a “regular” now is Colleen. I have been  going to Colleen for about a year or two now, during which time she has seen me stressed, over worked, tired, super fit, happy, married, honeymooned and now pregnant. All these states of life have meant I have needed different things –
sports & deep tissue massages after long runs and races, detox and repair massages after wedding & honeymoon red wine indulgences:), reiki to reconnect with my emotions and take control of life when it whirlwinds, kahuna to ease into my pregnancy with love, gratitude and gentleness and now pregnancy, hands, feet and head massages to relax, heal and ease aches and pains.
Colleen has become one of my favorites because I don’t need to know what I need, she always just does. In fact I don’t even choose what I have when I go visit anymore she just does.  I don’t need to understand what she does, how it works, where it comes from – its just a case of going, accepting & letting go:). Between my mum (also a Colleen fan) & I we have sent a DOZEN people to visit, from the biggest skeptics to the most relaxed and open minded of our friends and family – and all have the same kind of feeling, that of being healed… and its a beautiful thing!
Aches and pains aside for a couple of days after a lovely, relaxing pregnancy massage – that may have been my last visit before popping! And ill be back through that door in a months time with a new challenge for Colleen as a new mommy & am excited for what comes next!
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Partnerships : Work, Home, Play . . .


My partner and I have been together for 18years. If I had gotten pregnant, we would have had a teenager by now!

We ‘ll keep trying!   Tongue in cheek!

I decided to write a blog about partnerships because we are not just partners, we are soul mates.

We are vastly different yes! An artist and a healer. His brain works in one way and my brain works in a complete different fashion, but together, we make a great team.  I support him and he supports me.

For us to have a great relationship, it does take work.

First off, we agreed a long time ago, that we are NOT allowed to scream, vent, use foul language or bad mouth each other.

We agreed that if we were to anger one another, to take a time out.

Secondly, to speak the truth, as soon as possible. If you are offended or hurt, say it, address it and then make up.

Thirdly, we work together, he supports me in my healing practise and he runs the home. When I say run the home, he does dishes, cooks, does laundry, does shopping, ensures that I eat and takes exceptionally good care of me.  It works, our roles as man and wife are reversed yes, but it works well for us. I don’t have a clue about how to decorate or sew or create art but he knows how to. I value him, I really do. He makes our space a home. Home is definitely where he is. (I am definitely feel the emptiness when his away)

Fourthly, play! We try to laugh and have fun together everyday! But sometimes, I do neglect him.

I get busy with clients, advertising, blogging, studying, answering messages, calls, emails etc and by the end of the day,

its good nite, and I hit my pillow.

I will admit, I feel guilty because my life purpose as a healer, takes up all of my life. I apologise often for the neglect and then we have a heart to heart talk and I apologise because I know I am a workaholic.

We reconnect when we talk about our feelings.

We have a romantic night and all is restored again, frustrations are put aside and we are once again on the same page.

This made me think about partners who work, play, create a home together.

Some key tools to have a awesome relationship :

Be true to yourself, your partner should know you well, both your flaws and your shine.

Speak your truth, a .s . a . p , don’t let anything build up to a mountain of frustrations and hurt feelings.

Be kind to your partner, hugs and kisses are essential.

Flirt with your partner, give them compliments frequently.

Never! But never go to bed angry, sort anything and everything out.

If you are feeling neglected, do something about it!  Create a date night, and a romantic dinner.

Decide to put away cell phones at 6pm every night, so you have time to talk and share life!

Intimacy is created by a deep understanding, give your partner that! Everyone needs to be looked in the eye, have their hands held, and rub your partners feet when you are not tired.  Appreciation goes a LONG way….

Be a good partner, listen and know your partner well. . . .






I always love the smell of food cooking in my home or any home. I love the smell of fresh baked bread and the taste of it, it makes it feel like home.  I played outside as a kid yes, but mostly, I was my grandmothers taster, taste this and taste that. 

Home is where cooking and creating takes place for me, I am at home in the kitchen.

I thought I didn’t like cooking but turns out I do.

I love making delicious, vegetarian dishes that soothes the palette and the stomach.

I am a natural feeder and eater.

I love sitting around the kitchen table and have interesting conversations,

laughter, joy and a sharing of life, this is my ultimate favourite thing in the world.

It creates a sense of community, a feeling belonging to my tribe.

What I have thus realized since my return from Cape Town is, You truly cannot change others.

They are who they are. That being said, I can still breathe and I can still change whatever I want in my life.

I love myself enough to know this and to be wise and make use of the ancient Hawaiian wisdom of H’o pono pono :

I love you, I am sorry, I forgive you, thank you. (I also add in a visualisation of walking away) 

Having a big family comes with both expectations and disappointments.

Sometimes you can prepare for any situation, with sending reiki energy ahead, smudging the space and creating a space of peace but be sure that that one person will come with their drama, chaos and unconscious ego behaviour to either criticise your looks, your weight or your hair.  I chose the wise option to rebuff such comments and subsequently just dodge them.

I discovered that family is definitely who you click with, those on the same brain wave as you.

The ones who bring forth joy, fun, laughter and LOVE!  The others who are ego driven fade away.

I chose to protect my energy and just forgive, bless and LOVE! And MOVE on…

I accepted myself LONG ago, I am who I am. I happen to LOVE the imperfect me, my fuzzy hair, my stretch-marked waist, the sound of my laughter, the joy I bring to my life,  because it isn’t what I look like that will be remembered, it is how I affected others with my life that matters more.

Everyone has a story. Be sceptical but listen. Listen, read through the bullshit, the lies, the body language and then respond. Until then, just listen.  Listening brings forth a true message which can then be processed and understood.

As I go along this journey of LIFE, I continue to learn new aspects of myself, those who impacted my life the most, who taught me skills and a different way of life and I bless the people who have helped me along my path.

 Sometimes family is blood related but much more family is a heart felt connection of belonging.

A shared life-style and understanding of life, culture, tribesman and woman, something no money can buy.

 Thank you! For this awesome realization.

 Until, next time Cape town:-)



Karmic Weight Release + Weight loss (release) by Rinku Patel @ Reikirays.com

Karmic Weight Release


Article by Rinku Patel

Hello all, here I am back again with the topic I am pretty obsessed these days and that is weight release (loss). While I was trying Detox-Crystals-Reiki, I started wondering what actually is causing weight gain. I do not overeat, I do not have food addiction, I do self-healing 4-5 times a week, so is it only lack of exercise? I started pondering over this question and I realized that it is highly possible that it is an issue of karmic weight, weight I have been carrying since past lives. The people who are struggling with weight issues in this life are most probably suffering from karmic weight issues. Please it does not count sheer laziness and unhealthy eating. Karmic weight is caused by unresolved and unreleased issues from the past lives.

So let us understand what actually karmic weight is. You have been a healthy eater, you exercise regularly, you meditate daily, you have no addiction and yet your weight won’t budge. Why? There might be multiple reasons. Suppose in one of your previous life you were starved, so you end up over-eating in this life time (Over-eating could be due to emotional stress too). Or suppose, you had to work extremely hard to earn even one time food, you subconsciously store the food in your body, it gets accumulated because somewhere deep down body feels you will not get enough food. Karmic weight is not just related to eating habits. Another example, you had been traumatized, sexually abused or emotionally wounded and you are now subconsciously trying to be of undesired weight to stop it from happening again. You carry weight as a protective shield. For better and clear answers, you can get Akashic records read or get PLR done.

So, is there no way to release this karmic weight? There is certainly a way out, all you need is patience, faith and love for your body. You have to release yourself from the karmic contract.

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Release Karmic Weight
  1. Call upon your spirit guides, guardian angels, archangels and ascended masters. Ask them to assist you in releasing karmic contract related to excess weight and aid you in releasing all the excess karmic weight accumulated from past lives.
  2. Draw distant symbol HSZSN, intone its name thrice and ask it to scan and connect to all the issues from past lives related to excess weight.
  3. Now simply write on paper or say aloud- I permit myself to be healthy and slim. I release all the karmic connection with undesirable, addictive or protective weight that accumulated in this life as well as all related past lives. My desirable weight is _____ pounds/kgs and I have achieved it. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, so it is.
  4. If you have stated the above statement aloud, draw CKR+SHK+CKR ( into its name thrice) sandwich in air and let the Reiki flow. If you have written it then draw CKR+SHK+CKR sandwich on paper. If you are attuned to the master symbol, draw Master symbol with the intention to heal your karmic weight issues.
  5. If you are attuned to Karmic Reiki, draw Karmic Reiki symbols on the paper. Emotional Butterfly to release and heal all emotional negative patterns and Taoist Grace to release addictive and negative thought patterns accompanied by karmic-sisters symbols.
  6. For next 45 days, give Reiki to your intention slip or repeat the whole procedure. Give a break of 15 days and observe any changes you may notice. If you find no change, then repeat the process for another 45 days.
  7. You can program a weight loss crystal and hold it along with this intention slip for faster manifestation.

Release your karmic contract and karmic weight and be happy and healthy.


Weight Loss (Release) with- Detox Drink, Crystals and Reiki


Article by Rinku Patel

These days I am pretty much obsessed with one thing and is WEIGHT RELEASE (loss). It is a very slow process for me as I do not generally workout or I don’t have stressful running around life. Getting obsessed with this weight reduction topic, I started reading more and more about it. Started discussing with friends what they do for weight release, which crystals they prefer and which the best reiki method is for them. After lots of pros and cons I have come up with this method, though I cannot say it is a tried and tested one. I have just started this since last 4 days and all I can say is I feel way lighter, my hunger pangs reduced and I feel more motivated to continue this weight release process. We merge 3 weight release methods here: Detox drink, Crystals and Reiki.

Now you must be wondering how crystals merges here. Well, the water that we are going to use in making detox drink is nothing else than crystal elixir.

Detox Drink

This detox drink recipe I found while surfing internet and I am pretty sure it is quite effective.

Ingredients needed: Sliced cucumber, chopped mint leaves, lemon/lime juice and 1 liter water (crystal water), cinnamon stick (optional).

Method: Take a one liter container, toss all the above ingredients and fill it with crystal elixir. Put it in the refrigerator overnight and drink this detox drink throughout next day. When it is half empty, add more crystal elixir. Do not use for more than 2 days. I prefer making every day, I make at night and leave it overnight in refrigerator.

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Biggest question is which stone should one use for weight release? There are too many stones to pick one. Some crystals when combined with other crystals creates wonders. Listing below are few crystals you can use, pick the ones you resonate with. Once you pick your combo, make your elixir to cleanse it, charge with Reiki and program with a weight loss intention or affirmation.

  • Iolite– Best for reducing fatty deposits.
  • Blue Kyanite– Release excessive weight.
  • Apatite– Reduce hunger pangs and improves metabolism.
  • Tigers eye– Speeds up metabolism rate and increase motivation to diet/exercise.
  • Sunstone– Increases metabolism and will power.
  • Amethyst– For the ones who has obsessive eating disorder and for the ones who ends up eating when distressed. It also helps reduce addictive eating.
  • Carnelian– Stimulates metabolism and heals feminine issues associated with Sacral chakra that causes weight gain.
  • Citrine– Helps you manifest your goal faster.
  • Rose Quartz– Teaches you to love your body.
  • Clear Quartz– Enhance everything.

Note: – While making elixir, always check crystals if they are toxic or not.


Do we healers do anything without Reiki? I guess not! At least I don’t.

So, how to merge Reiki?

– Reiki all the ingredients used in Detox drink.
– Reiki whatever crystals you pick for your combo to make elixir.
– Reiki the detox drink again once it is ready.

You can use any weight release affirmation while charging everything with Reiki. Also ask Reiki to heal karmic weight across lives, space and dimensions.

You can use any other detox recipe and continue with the procedure. So let us all release our weight and be healthy, happy and hot.

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Rinku Patel

Rinku Patel

Rinku Patel is a Reiki Usui Master. She practices also Karmic Reiki, Kundalini Reiki, Angel Reiki, Crystal Healing, Dowsing, Soulmate Reiki, Angel card, Tarot Card, Imara Reiki and Magnified Healing. Classes and Healing: Usui Reiki, Karmic Reiki, Kundalini Reiki, Angelic Reiki, Soulmate Reiki, Crystal healing, Angel and Tarot card reading, Dowsing, Imara Reiki and Magnified Healing. Rinku can be reached via her email address reikithemiraclehealing@gmail.com and on Facebook at Reiki The Miracle Healing.

Moments of beauty by Claire @ www.growingfree.co.za

Moments of beauty


a cup on a windowsill, tall and tapering. pink interlaced with yellow and green, a purple towel flapping on the line beyond the glass

the bite of chilli carried on fragrant grains of white rice. a dot of lentil here and there, a sliver of carrot, a flush of broccoli

my daughter’s body curled perfectly in the crook of my arm. my cheek resting on her head. sawdust and biscuits – little girl smells from a babe on my chest, tiny toes tucked neatly into my palm

the feel of my lover beneath my spine, the back of my thigh. the light touch of lace on my skin, the cloying warmth of sheets tangled with love and sweat

the light scattered across the kitchen table breathes deeply. outside the wind moves branches across the window. inside stillness drops like a rare gift.

leaves let go of the trees and drift across the field. the sun catches their descent, masking our green field with golden snow.

the cosmos nod on the side of the road. pink heads dancing in the drying grass, like little children as yet untamed.

The ground receives my body, my troubles. Om shanti chants ring in my ears as the effects of yoga practice unfold through my limbs. I am held, embraced by the universe. A quiet knowing births in my belly: I am powerful, powerful beyond my wildest imaginings.

I surrender to a shaman of the soul. Her long loving strokes across my skin repair my body while my mind drops deeper and deeper. My soul rises into the room. It is a den of ancient healing magic. Incense, gongs, stones, a voice aching with beauty. I remember that sometimes you can see better with your eyes closed.

This is our life, this is our world. Moments of beauty waiting like secret treasures scattered along our paths.  When and where do you see beauty?

This post was sponsored by the talented and compassionate Colleen of Midlands House of Healing. It is a blessing and an honor to work with someone so immensely good at what she does. Let an hour of her magic be one of your moments of beauty, and feel your soul awaken to what is deep inside (Colleen: 084 603 0604).

30 ways to get Grounded! by Amanda Meder

30 Ways to Get Grounded

October 5, 2015

By Amanda Linette Meder

Being grounded means that you are centered and balanced with who you are on a soul level. It means you’re wholly connected to truest, most authentic self.

When you’re grounded you make decisions that honor and respect your soul’s needs, while respecting and honoring the rights of another.

If you are going to be making any major life decisions, such as those related to relationship or career, or if you are stepping into a conversation that requires and deserves your utmost attention and care – it’s important to be grounded.

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30 Ways to Ground Yourself

  1. Meditate outside
  2. Get close to a tree (lean, hug, touch)
  3. Go for a walk (anywhere)
  4. Eat more root vegetables
  5. Sit near stream or river
  6. Breathe in fresh air
  7. Cook a meal from scratch
  8. Burn natural incense
  9. Cuddle an animal
  10. Do yard work
  11. Go birdwatching
  12. Hunt for crystals (in a mine or in a shop)
  13. Get physical with exercise
  14. Lay in the sun
  15. Grow your own herbs and vegetables
  16. Hike to natural rock faces
  17. Read a book outside
  18. Disconnect from technology
  19. Lay on your back and look at the clouds
  20. Pamper your physical body
  21. Have sex (with yourself or with someone else)
  22. Have a real conversation
  23. Work on an intricate craft that requires your hands
  24. Go sit somewhere in nature
  25. And turn off your phone while you do it
  26. Find some birds . . . feed them
  27. Listen to earthy music
  28. Create your own music
  29. Write
  30. Cry

Practicing just one of these things can help you get back to a state of centeredness and connection to who you truly are on a soul level.

Get grounded by trying out one of the above activities today.

– Amanda

Cape Town, my 6 day bucket list

I have lived and loved the Midlands for the last 6 years, and I felt it was time to go to Cape Town.

I chose to take the Greyhound bus, so as to lower my carbon footprint. It takes 1 day to travel to Cape Town

and you are seated in a comfortable chair, with movies, your cell phone for music and

books to read and entertain yourself. (Taking a airplane is more pollution.)

I have become a country mouse. Traffic, noise, pollution,

people drama, chaos, road range, crime, homeless people, beggars are all the

things, I have run away from.

I prefer, the slow drive to Howick to do shopping.

I prefer not having to clutch my handbag to myself, to avoid being robbed.

I prefer the clean water from the mountain. I prefer silence with the chirping of the birds,

the rising of the sun, and the  slower days of Living Spirit.

That being said, I gathered all of my courage and said ok, I need to do my Cape town

bucket list at age 40.

The list was :

Drive along Chapmans peak  :
The entire journey took 6 hours of driving in total, due to local road works.

It was amazing to feel the presence of 2 oceans, to feel the energy of

being ‘home’. (Midlands is my home)






Eat Fish and Chips : We did this in Hout bay!  it was super delicious.

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Inhale the wafting smell of fish. I grew up with this smell, it is part of my heritage.

My grandfather, used to bring home vast amounts of it and I am so grateful to these

living beings giving us life.

Go to Simonstown Gem shop : Michaela and I loved the gem shop.

It was ultra amazing to feel the stones and select the one’s we love!

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Befriend a Stranger : This is SUSAN. She works at the Gypsy shop in Long street.

I entered the shop and we ended up chatting so much. She is a retired lawyer from the UK.

She lives in Muizenberg, and totally loves Cape Town.


Take Public transport :

We took a taxi from Cape Town Cbd to the Waterfront, encountering traffic, people and noise.

We then proceeded to take a train home, what a experience!   I totally got my public transport fix.



Eat Dosa and Falafel :  Dosa is a traditional South Indian meal.

It is pancake like, but the taste is super amazing! I have waited years to taste it again! chomp chomp!

In the evening I had a falafel burger topped with salsa sauce in pitta bread, it was delicious.



Lessons learnt on this journey!

Always choose to make yourself happy first, don’t people please.

Say No! when you don’t feel comfortable.

Don’t take anything PERSONALLY!

Thank you to the Crowe’s for hosting me, spoiling me, pampering me,

laughing at me, when I smudged their home! but being open to the magic of healing.

Thank you to the Chamberlain’s for making me laugh so much, thank you.

Thank you for all the gifts which made my backpack oh so heavy.

Thank you for giving me a deep sense of belonging and inspiring me once again.

Thank you to Michaela, who gave me a true sisterhood experience.

Thank you to everyone who made this trip amazing!

Thank you! for being open to the healthy alternatives of green juices.

Thank you to those who made time to connect and have a awesome reunion.

Love you to the MOON and back.
XXXX Colleen





Lifes Lemons by Jenna : www.ilovethemidlands.co.za

Lifes Lemons

Lifes Lemons
 After Chris and I got married last year, everyone instantly began to nag about when we were going to have kids – hints were thrown, jokes were made and “so whens the baby coming” was asked more regularly then “how are you”. Close friends & family all knew we were ready and didn’t want to wait long (forgiven) but during this time I realized how much we involve ourselves in other peoples lives without always considering what may or may not be going on. So many people struggle to have children and its easy to ask “so whens little one coming” without considering what asking that question may feel like to someone having problems?
At face value, I am a high energy, brave, independent person who seems to just get on with it:) – for those who know me a little better, I do also worry, stress and take on a lot of what goes on around me – keeping busy may be the way I cope with whats going on – but sometimes it does all fall apart.
I have cried a lot lately, and whilst there are days that tears come for ABSOLUTELY NO REASON AT ALL, the past few times have been tears of worry, anxiety and love. Regardless of reasons, to most nothing at all was going on with me and the smallest question like “how are you” made me want to curl up in to a ball and just cry, because I didn’t want to think or even know about how I was feeling or what was going on. I don’t like to be down so when these days or moments come – I NEED to keep going, keep busy, be pro-active and this often contributes to an even worse melt down in the end.
Time has passed and things have gotten better and easier – I look back at how I dealt with it all and wonder if i could have been more calm and rational but know that my heart is soft and nothing could have taken away the worry and stress this time. I am so grateful for the love and support I get from my family and wonder how people do life alone.
Teary, tired and hobbeling, I visited my Colleen for a reset – because sometimes after all that, its not about trying to change the way we acted, but accepting that’s how I felt, coped and then just starting over.
Reiki for energy, a massage for my sore & tired hands, feet and head. Myself and the baby were renewed with energy and given a chance to be quiet and reflect on it all. Tea and chats and it was time to just start over:).
We are on a beautiful journey together and with only 6 weeks to go – I cannot wait to meet this special little person – already strong, courageous and wild…

A busy bee kind of woman by Claire @ www.growingfree.co.za

A busy bee kind of woman




For the last few days my phone has rarely left my hand. I jot down notes during breakfast and rock my toddler to sleep while touring building sites. I am flushed with creative energy. As I feel it bubble up, in my mind I dutifully trot out the familiar litany: calm down, do less, simplify.

I have long-labored under the misconception that because I tend to my spirit, and believe in things unseen, I should be a floaty, dreamy sort of person, correctly attired in swirling skirts and silver chains. I should bring warmth and peace to the world by fluttering gently from bloom to bloom, staying pretty all the while. Have I ever succeeded in being this person? I’m not sure I have, but the belief that I ought to has hung like a stone around my neck.

Who am I really? I’m working hard, at things that I love. And while I dig and draw and paint and dream and grow, I don’t float around, nor do I keep my home beautiful and neat. I ponder long and hard how to be the best parent I can, and respect and marvel at my daughter’s independence, audacity and kindness, but I’m not the perfect mom. On a weekday I can barely manage an hour of carpet play before my mind wanders and my skin crawls. I might be a rubbish employee. I am a creator; I am a nurturer. Right now I have more projects on the go than I can remember in a moment. It’s busy and it’s full and I love it. It’s who I am. I am not a butterfly drifting on the breeze. I am a busy bee. I am messy, and occasionally unreliable, and I have a very, very short attention span. I am drawn to color and growth; I move far and wide. I feel deeply, and move swiftly, and can pull off in a matter of minutes what takes other hours. I make spaces for others to grow. It has taken me decades to accept that this is what I am, to stop only seeing the things that I’ve left undone. I have a hand in three different businesses, I’m a stay-at-home mom, I’m an employee of an overseas business, the wife of a farmer, of an artist, I’m a terrible gardener and a sporadic baker. Hardly anyone I know actually understands what I do for a living, but I finally, actually, don’t care. I understand me and that’s no small deal.

In the midst of this busy season I visited Colleen at the Midlands House of Healing for my monthly refresher. By the time the end of each month rolls around I am rarely in perfect balance. There is usually some aspect of self, physical or feminine, masculine or mental, that I have neglected. It is an unavoidable element of living vividly in the world that we will quite regularly get worn out. Through trial and error I have realized to pull myself back from the edge I need ritual and I need support. This is how my visits to Colleen fit into my life. I walked into her home last week ready to be scolded. A part of me always believes that I should be able to heal on my own, without any help. But instead Colleen opened her arms wide. She makes it okay to be me (whatever that is). I found a quiet place to wait for my turn on her table and felt calm settle on me like water washing over my skin. I tipped my head back and felt it caress my eyelids, my throat, and trickle along my collar bones. I remembered that it is only in full acceptance that we can find true peace and balance.

What kind of woman are you?

*This post was sponsored. Next month on Saturday 16 April, there will be a women’s workshop at the Midlands House of Healing. Its focus is on accepting and loving who you are no matter what form that incarnation takes. It’s about giving and getting that acceptance from those whom we often feel to be our harshest critics – other women. The workshop will run from 9am to 2pm, with all refreshments and lunch included for R1200. For more information or to secure your place, contact Colleen on 084 603 0604.  


Preparing for Travelling as a Empath

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I booked my greyhound bus ticket to Cape Town, just before my 40th Birthday, in February 2016.

I left Cape Town in 2008 and I have not looked back, simply because my life has been busy.

Busy moving, busy building, busy setting up my practise, busy establishing myself, busy working on myself and trying to find out who and what I am. I felt, I could not be around family to do that, because it was an inside job.

A job that only I could do, with the help of Willem.

Now, going back to Cape town, to feel :  Table mountain, to feel the energy of the city again, I am both excited and apprehensive.

For the last month, I have been preparing myself.

I have sent energy ahead to the bus driver, to the passenger beside me, to the family reconnection and reunion. I have done an inner detox of old wounds of forgiving and forgetting.

I have worked on a physical detox of drinking my 1l of green juice every day and I have been reiki ing myself every day to prepare.

I am an empath which means I feel everything. I have been dreaming, and gaining insight on what my ancestors would like me to do and I asked for the strength to do it.

I have also started packing my backpack, I pack in advance, so nothing is forgotten. 

I take out useless items,  and recheck what is really essential.

For me, the preparation for the journey is as important, as the journey itself.

Rescue remedy, Arnica tissue salts and Roman chamomile essential oil, are part of the essentials, combined with endless snacks of chocolate, water, apple juice, and at least 3 books to read on the way.

Comforts are an eye mask, sleeping music on my phone, my pillow, rose quartz for keep me safe,

and wearing hematite to keep me grounded and at ease.

Four days to go and I am still deciding what else will be necessary for my trip, as I like to be prepared for every eventuality.

Most of all, I am open to an Adventure of exploring more of me, I plan to have fun, and enjoy all the pleasurable taste-filled delights of Anat at the Waterfront, Masala dosa in Loop street, Walk the company gardens, eat Texies fish and chips, and enjoy the city and then happily return to my shire, my silence, my space renewed insight and nurturing….

Next stop Cape Town!


The many signs of being an Empath – You are not alone.

You may think you’re crazy or just oversensitive, but you might be really an Empath. Here you will find many of the traits and signs of being one. Do you fit them or know someone who does?

Source: The many signs of being an Empath – You are not alone.

You may think you’re crazy or just oversensitive, but you might be really an Empath.

Often referred to as HSP or Highly Sensitive People, the Empath will pick up on the feelings and emotions of others around them as though it were their own feelings.

They are not the stuff of science fiction and they are way more common than you think.

You may be one… and not even know it.

Knowing you are an Empath can change your life.

There are many signs that you are empath and here are just a few. As I remember them or note new ones,

This is an ever expanding post. I will continue to add them to this list.

  1. You care too much about other people, even to your own detriment.
  2. Strangers will tell you their life story and say: I don’t know why I am telling you, but I feel I can. They also tend to offload their problems onto you and you may be too polite to tell them to stop.
  3. You will feel lonely, even when around others. The sense of loneliness of being an Empath doesn’t come from being alone, it comes from not being able to talk to others about what you are feeling and feeling there are no answers to your questions.
  4. You may suffer from attention deficit disorder. (ADD) You may easily get drawn into feelings and emotions that come up seemingly randomly. Next thing you know, you are somewhere else and you’ve lost track of what was going on.
  5. If you are naturally psychic, being an Empath will give you additional information about places, people and events.
  6. When someone else has a bad day, you have a bad day in sympathy.
  7. You take on guilt very easily, even for things that you did not do.
  8. You will do anything to keep the peace. Any tension will make you feel very stressed and you can’t relax until everyone else is happy.
  9. Even if you enjoy a particular activity, you won’t enjoy it if the people around you are not into it. You would rather do it on your own or something else.
  10. You can’t bear to see other people or animals in suffering or in pain.
  11. You can always tell when someone is lying. You are a human lie detector.
  12. You find it very difficult to say ‘no’ when someone asks you for help. Many Empaths get treated like a doormat. They don’t want to upset others or make them feel bad by refusing help
  13. You like giving surprise gifts and making others happy just for the sake of it. If they feel good, you feel good, even if it’s just for that moment.
  14. You suffer from anxiety for no apparent reason. Sometimes the feelings will be overwhelming, especially when something major is going on in the world. Stock market crashes are often a bad time for Empaths.
  15. You suffer from clinical depression and mood swings and have no idea why.
  16. You often feel overwhelmed by events and emotions, sometimes to the point where you short out and stop feeling anything at all.
  17. Holidays, such as Christmas, are a very bad time for you. You often feel sad and lonely.
  18. You will always give the benefit of the doubt to someone, just in case they really didn’t mean to say or do something you consider hurtful or negative.
  19. You may suffer from seasonal depression. Autumn might make you feel especially depressed.
  20. You might find you are very psychic, picking up on people and events before they even happen.
  21. You suffer from social anxiety and find it hard to be around people, especially if you feel you shouldn’t be there. Parties are hard and tedious and nightclubs are like a living hell for you.
  22. You want to save the world, but feel too depressed and despondent to do it.
  23. If you hear of someone who is having a hard time, or is unlucky in life or love, you want to just save them and make them happy.
  24. You cry when watching romantic movies, even if they are really bad ones, and you feel embarrassed about doing so.
  25. Old songs make you sad. You long for those past times, even if they were horrible at the time.
  26. You just know things. Even things that no one has never told you. You don’t know how you know them, but you just do.
  27. You don’t know where your feelings end and others begins. You may not even be aware that they are not your feelings.
  28. If someone tells you about their pain or sickness, you will sympathy pains.
  29. You feel constantly exhausted. Chronic fatigue is a reoccurring problem for you.
  30. You are drawn to new age things, especially alternative medicines.
  31. You are extremely creative, though you may feel embarrassed about sharing that part of you in case others reject it or make fun of it.
  32. You may well feel at one with nature. Cities are very hard to live in due to all the psychic pollution that is about.
  33. You are always seeking knowledge. You may not even know what you are looking for, but you look for it anyway.
  34. You daydream a lot. Go on adventures in your mind. This can happen anywhere and anytime.
  35. You can sense the energy of food. You can tell if it feels healthy or not. You are also drawn to bad foods that make you feel good, such as chocolate or sugary treats.
  36. People may consider you strange, aloof or indifferent.
  37. You may have difficulty urinating in public, especially if you feel under pressure. If someone is waiting, you will give up and try to find a place that isn’t being used.
  38. You attract sociopaths and narcissists into your life that will use and abuse you. They will convince you that you are the one who is wrong.

When people find out they are an empath, they ask: How do I know I am one? Generally, only an Empath will ask that type of question. Non Empaths do not care.

If you find yourself nodding along to the above traits, then yes, you are certainly and Empath. The good news is there is so much you can do about it. You can turn what so many call a curse into a blessing.

Help and resources are at hand and they need not cost you a cent.

The free Empath Guidebook was written especially for the Empath and can be downloaded from empathsupport.com

You can also join the Facebook group which focuses on resources and community.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/empathsupport/

If you want to connect to other Empaths and spiritual people in real time, you can try the chat room. http://www.psi-zone.net/oldchat.html

You are not alone.




45th Reiki Attunement, do ‘s and don’t ‘s as a future Reiki master

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I write this blog as I have been preparing for my 45th Reiki Attunement, to

my amazing student Isobel Fitz-Gerald. I met Isobel 2 years ago.

She was referred to me by Leigh Willemse from Cosmic Crystals.

She came for 3  reiki sessions, and then showed immense interest in learning, growing, and journeying within.

If I am to compare, she took to REIKI like fish to water. She worked hard, determined, dedicated,

disciplined, and she became my greatest student yet. She blossomed like no other.

I grew to LOVE Isobel. She shines, she is responsive to being taught, like clay being thrown on a wheel.

She has the biggest heart ever! She’s pretty amazing, awesome, and fierce.

We had a 2hr chat yesterday about Do’s and Dont’s about being a REIKI MASTER.

What a Reiki master means is, you are a Teacher and YOU carry another’s soul when teaching.

YOU are NOT a Master, if you haven’t Mastered Teaching another. You nurture, assist and

undertake a oath to be a good Teacher.

You are empathic as a reiki person,  and thus Sociapaths are attracted to you like a moth to a flame, take care,

protect you.

There are good and bad people, be aware of the Energy vampires.

Teach Only the Clean, dedicated, hard working students, NO addicts : Coccaine / other drugs.

Be sexually exclusive, refrain from casual sex, ensure its meaningful : As any bodily fluids :

saliva, intimate fluids, create connection which stay with you  for at least 3 days. You need to CUT all

connection with others when practising healing.

Protect yourself : refrain from Noise, crowds, uncomfortable situations.

Live a simple life : know that the Universe supports you, It knows what you need when you need it.

Trust in the simple flow of synchronicity.

Do your daily affirmations everyday.

Wake up early, walk, meditate, reiki you.

Shine!  but be discerning, don’t share to much of what You do. Keep you safe. Beware of naysayers.

Eat a Clean diet : Lots of fresh fruit, vegetables, juices, nuts  fish if you can digest it. Eggs if they are organic.

Refrain from caffeine, smoking, alcohol as this will affect you negatively and let your chakras spin anti-clockwise.

Listen to your GUT feeling : 1st Instinct : Act on it.

Learn to observe people : see deeper, feel more, read body language, seek intuitive guidance.

Read and gain knowledge about everything, know this is a JOURNEY, and you will learn lessons and grow everyday.

When teaching a student ensure they are dedicated, this is NOT a job, it is a life purpose!

normal people work 9 to 5 and go home. You will be busy from sunrise to sunset, you will LOVE

every experience. You will teach, nurture, grow, assist your Students and create more Healers,

the Universe will send them, teach them as I have taught you.

Practise your meditation everyday.

Wear your stones to keep you safe.

Be discerning about what you put your energy into and why?

Know you are channelling energy, you are linked to both : good and bad : own your feelings and

feel them but do not dwell on either to much, find your balance.

Love : Yourself, nurture you, have a good relationship with you = Deep acceptance.

Laugh often. Smile. Ask for what you need.

Speak your Truth, call it as you see it.

See your failings but see your Light too.

Forgive and Forget. Bless.

Enjoy the Journey!  a New beginning, life as you know it, will never be the same.





a s k h o l e ? A problem for every solution



A problem for every solution :

Every soul lesson learnt is a growing within, spiritually.

Every uncomfortable scenario presents itself, in order to Master your body, your attitude, your energy and emotions, you learn to persevere and endure, so you can grow.

If you  subscribe to the train of thought of being comfortable always, of “seeking a good time”, your focus is to live a 5 sensory life : What you eat, drink, satisfy your senses, hearing, feeling and this is not a spiritual life.

A spirit filled life is being conscious and aware of every moment of everyday.

Waking up early to connect with earth spirit.

Taking long walks and deep breathes.

Praying to the Divine and having a OPEN Universal connection to the Divine.

Meditating on LIFE and your life purpose.

Being grateful and thankful in your attitude, words and deeds for every moment.

Taking stock of every emotion you feel :  Ensuring that you are not JUDGING, taking it personally, assuming or blaming anyone, as the Responsibility of your life, lies 100% with you.

If we are immortal souls having a spiritual journey, we should passionately embark on living our truth and speaking it, and refrain from living a dualistic existence which promotes lies and deception.

If we keep finding problems for every solution the problem thus lies within ourselves either to keep self sabotaging our life or to just not live up to our TRUE potential, thus the onus of life exist with ourselves to be ask holes”, drawing energy from others and being a psychic energy vampire, instead of tapping into the Universal energy and cultivating a Spiritual Life, inside and outside of ourselves.

Living a Spiritual life is hard, it takes dedication and commitment, but the rewards are so much more.

A fulfilled life of living your life purpose, soul fulfilling.







Embracing 40!


So I turned 40 years old yesterday! All day, I was waiting for the “feeling”of 40 to arrive,

I waited for the Lightning bolt of  I am 40….No feeling of change or lightningbolt came. I felt exactly the same.

I had a few realizations though as a woman.

Ask for what you want or just make it happen ?

For my birthday’s previously, I always wanted a party with many people, but this year

I just want a small tea party with Andrea and Nicola, Wp and Raen, a normal day of  having  a tea  party.

(I totally sound old and boring! I am ok with it)

I purchased my own presents and then gave the gemstones to Raen and Wp to hand to me on

my birthday, which they did. I got exactly what I wanted!  Wp also made me a “smudge”feather

which I love! (you ll see It in my studio)

I also decided that it is time to visit my place of birth! Cape Town.

Table mountain, family, friends, beaches and enjoy the place where I am from,

so I booked a ticket with Greyhound and I will be going to Cape town on 17 March 2016. (for 1 week)

I have also enrolled with Healing hands for my Counselling Course. I received my course

material on Sunday and I LOVE THE course already, I almost completed Lesson 1.

What I have learnt on this journey of turning 40 :

  1. Ask for what you want or just make it happen! simple. You are the boss!
  2. Become stylish at 40, wear what is comfortable not fashionable.
  3. Be light of heart, Laugh often.
  4. Smile everyday! life is short, don’t waste it.
  5. Amplify the good. It is so easy to just hack onto the negative, watch yourself.
  6. Discipline : Eat what you love, go walking and sing in the rain.
  7. Make love :  Pleasure is not excluded from living a Spirit LIFE, its In clu ded.
  8. Have fun  : make everyday count.
  9. Time : Spend more time living, less time on your cell phone.
  10. Read more : I am loving reading more and more, I love being a book worm.
  11. LOVE, forgive, Let go : Life is precious. Love but protect YOU!
  12. Healing : To give or receive is sacred and special, boost you with a massage or reiki session.
  13. Fuzz therapy : I have 2 cats who are crazy, but so lovable and cuddly, they are my fuzz therapy.
  14. Music : instantly changes your vibrations, dance and be free everyday.
  15. Say Thank you and Please and mean it.
  16. Practise using the word NO ! No ! No ! Say no first……
  17. KISSES  : often and Hugs more please….
  18. Stay in your own SKIN! love yourself, Accept yourself, be your truth.



You Don’t Need A Man, You Need a Goddamn Warrior.

Via on Aug 12, 2015

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To my sweet wild woman, I know why it hasn’t worked out with anyone else—you don’t need a man, but a goddamn warrior.

You are the strength of Turkish coffee at sunrise darlin’ and don’t try to pretend that you’re not.

You are one of the wild ones, and no matter how you tried to hide that fact, you can’t be anything other than what you are—and that’s okay. You are just as you are supposed to be, magnificently wild in all of your chaotic beauty.

I know you’ve had your heart broken and I know that you don’t understand why it always seems to never work out, but I’ve finally figured it out:

You don’t need a man, you need a goddamn warrior.

It doesn’t matter if this warrior drives a Jeep or a shiny sports car, and it won’t matter if he wears silk or cotton—it will not even matter if he works in a high-rise, or on the night shift.

What is going to matter is that when it comes to taking bets on your heart, he is going to be high stakes—all the way.

This warrior of yours will crave your strength, and your intensity. He’s going to look at you and not see something to tame, but something to just fuckin’ admire. This warrior of yours won’t be someone that you can manipulate or play with as you have in the past, so honey, don’t even try—and trust me, you’re going to love him even more because of it.

Because you aren’t just a woman, you’re a goddamn goddess.

Your fierceness is going to bring him to his knees every single time he looks into your gorgeous eyes, but the difference is, unlike the others, he isn’t going to be scared off. No, this time, you will have finally met your match—because a simple man for you just won’t do.

You need someone to match the fire in your eyes with his own. Not only that, my little wild thing, but this warrior of yours is going to want to encourage the flames instead of trying to douse them with his own insecurities.

Because for you, a warrior is the only man who will ever live in the wild with you.

He may not have to slay any dragons to earn your love, but he would still walk through fire if it meant seeing that amazing smile that you hold in reserve for only him.

This is the thing, free spirit, this warrior you seek….he’s seeking you too.

For he’s had failed relationships that have left him wondering if maybe he was meant to be alone for the rest of his journey—and you’re going to change all of that for him. You both have been travelling along on your separate journeys and have been doing an okay job at it, but that about to change too.

Because baby, when you and this warrior of yours meet and collide—it’s going to be a love set on fire.

Don’t try to run this time—I know your heart has been broken before, and that you’re not used to things working out, but this time it’s different. Give yourself time to see that.

This warrior of yours needs to see that it’s possible for someone to see all of his wild, and still be there when he craves his freedom and ventures off into this world for a bit. You won’t always need to follow him, just as he won’t always follow you. Let yourself stay wild, even when all you want to do is curl up in that spot along his side and forget the rest of the world exists.

Let yourself still wander naked under the full moon, and drink moonshine with the stars. Let yourself feel the pull of the wind on your heart, and the sun toward a new journey. Because this warrior is going to love you because of your wild—and he’ll want you to keep it.

You’ll be in this together now, this amazing, crazy, chaotic, wonderfully heartbreaking life—because it takes a warrior to love a goddess. And it takes a goddess to show a warrior what real love is.

So pack up your insecurities and your ideas about picket fences, because that was never you anyway. You were born knowing that you were destined for more, and now is the time for you to see what all those dreams look like.

There is no stopping a love like this, so promise me you’ll hold out just a little bit longer.

Have a little bit of hope, and always give love just one more try, because I promise you my sweet wild woman—the love that you seek is seeking you as well.


45 Life lessons written by a 90yr old woman:

45 Life Lessons Written by a “90-Year-Old” Woman


Whatever her age might be, these universal lessons are relatable to anyone who needs a little reminder of what’s important in life.

  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  16. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  17. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  19. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  20. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
  21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  23. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  25. Forgive everyone everything.
  26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  27. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  30. Believe in miracles.
  31. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  32. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
  33. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  34. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  35. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  36. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  37. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  40. The best is yet to come.
  41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  42. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  43. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

If you want more inspiration from Regina Brett, check out her personal website! And don’t miss 25 life lessons from a 99-year-old man.

Waddling by Jenna @ http://www.ilovethemidlands.co.za/blog/item/369-waddling

A friend of mine sent me a slideshow of these pictures a few months ago and I had a giggle but looking back at them now – they could not be funnier!

Funny Illustrations Pregnancy Struggles 4
For those of you who have been pregnant you will be all too familiar with waddling – “Duck-like”! It takes me time to go from lying down, to sitting, to standing and then once standing, FINALLY, I waddle around like a duck trying to figure out a way to avoid back pain, stomach tension and leg cramps – if this is what pregnant is like I’m not sure I’m ready for old, EVER!
 Funny Illustrations Pregnancy Struggles
Roo, my eye level tummy critic, says “wow Mom, you really are starting to get a boep hay”.
Last week Friday couldn’t have come fast enough, Waddling through the door into Colleen after one HELLAVA complicated and emotional morning all I could think about was how grateful I was to lie down and relax for an hour.
Funny Illustrations Pregnancy Struggles 1
Given the recent size increase of the bump, we have moved onto pregnancy massage, lying on each side for 20mins and on my back for 20mins. I am not usually one to suffer with aches and pains (unless its exercise related stiffness), but now I do battle with back pain and my legs and calves, which have taken to cramping, are often stiff and sore as a result.
Funny Illustrations Pregnancy Struggles 2
My body has changed alot in the last month and I can feel the effects of the weight on my body. A combination of gentle Kahuna massage strokes and warm rocks gently released tension in my sides, legs and back allowing me to feel more comfortable and relaxed. It is amazing to feel the response of the baby during the massage. Whenever I lie down or keep still, baby takes this as cue to get the party started, this is one active little bugger! During the massage baby changed from wiggling around frantically and kicking every hand, stone etc that Colleen put onto me to a much more calm little lump following her hands around wherever she was massaging.
I lay, comfortably for an hour, closed my eyes, breathed, slept and relaxed. The aches and pains will no doubt be back with the changes going on with my body and i’ll go back again, because that hour allowed me the chance to relax, re-energize, clear my mind and waddle a little less obviously:).
Funny Illustrations Pregnancy Struggles 3
There is something beautiful about being a part of creating life. Having the chance to forget about fatigue, aches, pains and nausea allows me to remember what a beautiful thing is happening. I already love, embrace and cherish this little person with every part of me, and happily take all the downs that may come with it – because there is nothing more precious to our family then this new little life that is being created❤ #happyheart

Woman Warriors guide to : Wife, healer, Mother, Protector

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I write this blog being fully embraced the fighter, healer, wife, mother within.

I never wanted to be a Mother. I decided in my teens to refrain from  venturing down the child bearing path, but what I am finding is this does not exempt me from “mothering, nurturing, caring, assisting.”

I sometimes feel like this is a bottomless bucket of endless giving.

The rules of mothering, nurturing, caring, assisting lacks boundaries deeply.

Clear boundaries of saying NO seems absent.

Self care seems to be at the bottom of the life pyramid.

So, we give until we can give no more!  But would it not be wiser to self nurture and

Become more of an empowered warrior woman of speaking our truth when we feel tired.

When we need some nurturing and love and kindness ourselves.

My teacher used to say, there is no difference between giving and receiving, it is just a flow of energy.

In a changing world where fresh food produce has become more expensive and the ever

Lurking sound of ‘draught’ occurring, realizing that we living in the Midlands have enough water, wood, trees and most of us have access to a vegetable garden.

Knowing that we need to prepare for all Kinds of realities, which doesn’t make us negative, but empowers us to be prepared for whatever happens.

To make a agreement with ourselves:

To ground ourselves to the earth everyday, to connect with earth sky spirit.

To rest when tired : 20 min snooze everyday.

To read a book to keep our minds motivated.

To eat wholesome meals, to fuel our bodies.

To eat the chocolate or drink the wine and do the yoga.

To exercise daily, to self care.

To make time to shave, to do facials, or whatever is your pampering time.

To receive treatments of reiki and massage, to keep our balance in tact.

To journal our feelings, so we have a good relationship with our emotional self.

To learn to listen to our Intuition, to be Spirit, to be fierce.

To be protect our home by putting salt at the 4 corners of the house outside.

To place rose-quartz at the entrance and exits of our home.

To smudge our home everyday, to cleanse it.

To have nurturing salt baths to rid ourselves from fatigue.

To wear gemstones of hematite, obsidian, pietersite to protect our energy bodies.

To Stay in our own skin.

To see our partner as an equal and not the enemy.

To realize that every negative actions has a lesson to be learnt.

To realize that every PAIN, carries a soul lesson which we need to attend to.

To be better than the person, we were yesterday, because we can.

Most of all is to LOVE ourselves unconditionally, and make time for YOU!

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Warrior women by Claire : www.growingfree.co.za

Warrior women


Today I met a warrior. She had braids in her hair and magic in her fingers. She brought me healing just as a shaman would, but she also showed me the path that a warrior walks. She stretched out her palm, as I do to you now, and asked me to join her. Backs proud, strides strong, we will walk together with our heads high and our gaze sharpened, on the watch for danger as a hawk eyes her prey. It is our sacred duty to protect. We protect first ourselves and then our circle. The birth of my daughter drew up something fierce and powerful from the earth beneath my feet. It spiraled up my calves through my gut and circled my heart before flowing down my arms to my fingertips. I am her protector. This will be my role until she can do the job herself. I will protect her from harm, both physical and psychic, which means I will, at times, have to protect her from myself. I must protect her right to be, to stand strong and alone, because that is her future.

You, who are reading this, you already stand alone. It is your responsibility, yours alone, to protect yourself. No-one else will because no-one else can. It is a force that draws up from inside you and shines out with the strength of a star. It is a balance each of us must find for ourselves, that conflicted place between surrender and fight. Some of you forge ahead, bold from birth, and learn as you age the power of softness, of reaching out across dissolving barriers. This is not me. I stand in awe of these women who hold their ground firm and unwavering. I see it in men too, the warrior-like strength that helps them force their unique path into a world clustered with agenda. But these words I write to warrior women, because our image has been shadowed and tarnished by history and expectation. We are told our value lies exclusively in softness, in surrender, in the pretty and the gentle. Where is the praise for courage in women, for feist and fight and nerve? I call you to join me in a celebration of the warrior in women. We will seek it out and nurture it in our daughters like an unfurling sapling. We will look for it in the women beside us and cheer and applaud as they brandish sword and shield. This is how we will bring balance to ourselves and to society.

Nature and nurture placed me as an outsider. I am the one who looks in, sees the fire licking in the grate and weaves a world of understanding from stolen glimpses. My personality is wound up in writing and expressing, in being a seeker of knowledge. But growing involves moving ever towards the edge. To become the person I am meant to be, I need to learn when to grab the war paint. If I stand out in the open, complacent and naive, I will be trampled by those passing through, leaving my spirit bruised and limp. I cannot be the wife, mother, friend, artist, lover, worker, woman I want to be if my gate is endlessly open. What about the lumbering cows who wander in and eat the tuft of lemongrass in a single mouthful, and crush the strawberries beneath their hooves? The damage is no less devastating for being unintended. And then there are those who, in envy or pain, wreak havoc with blows well-aimed. They will come, and they will look for a way in if they can. The only chance we have of keeping our daughters safe and whole is to teach them to fight for themselves.

Colleen of the Midlands House of Healing is my braided warrior and the sponsor of this post. Her healing sessions show me the way towards strength from within. She affirms my right to stand strong. She taught me to protect my home with smudge sticks and scatterings of salt. She told me how to carry protection with me as I travel to the four corners of the world, by placing rose quartz at the four corners of my bed, and hematite under my pillow, to trail wafts of sage and incense smoke, and drops of lavender and eucalyptus to cleanse. She is currently working on the design of women’s workshops, to foster a sisterhood of strength and beauty. The first workshop is scheduled for April 2016. Call or message her on 084 603 0604 for more details of the workshop or to book your own healing session at her bucolic abode outside Howick. Follow the link in the sidebar to like her Facebook page for updates.

16 days to Turning 40!

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So, I will be turning 40 years old,  in 16 days  time. Forty! All of me was freaking out because

I never wanted to be this old, OMG!  I wanted to be young and child-like forever, free of this age thing.

I can feel my body is starting to change, it is requiring more and more maintenance.

I don’t mind the growing old, I do mind the more maintenance part.

Maintenance how—>>  you ask?

Dentistry! I have been to the dentist 4 times this year, drilling, fixing, telling me,

my gums are receding due to age, and that I must be more careful.

Optometrist! I could no longer read the “fine”print on labels, so I needed new spectacles.

I now have 3 pairs of spectacles, one for reading, one for seeing long distance, one for the sunshine. (feeling old)

Reading a label at any Pick ‘n Pay store, feels like a mission. Just like cleaning my spectacles, I need

a pair of specs to clean and to see it.  (old age)

Maintaining! I have started doing gym training again because I love feeling stronger but

what I used to do, seems old, so I have to add new strengthening methods to achieve the same



Sanctuary!  I love being in my space at home, it makes me feel so good, so much so that

I don’t want to go anywhere, anymore.  I am a hobbit! a Creature of habit too.


SHAG fit!  In my 20s I could do a weekend of shagging, with little or no sleep, it was a marathon.

Poor WP was to happy to go to work on Monday mornings!  If I have to choose sleep vs shag, I choose sleep.

I need more sleep. I am loving sleep. Sleep is my friend.


I feel bad because his parents shag 3 times a week, and I battle to keep up! (lame hey)

It appears that if you don’t use it, you loose it, and hey I do love a good orgasm or  50!

Everyone woman does, Vitamin P is good for you.


Snooze!  Every afternoon, I sneak in a snooze! it is the mostly heavenly feeling ever.


Hair!  I was watching Wp shave the other day and the razor found its way to his nostrils,

this picture stuck in my head and I illustrated it to him with much laughter, his rebuff to me

wait wait, you’ll be 40 and hairer…..It is true. My hair is growing, with the odd grey curly hair

reaching for the ceiling, so far, I have counted 6 new grey hairs this week. So I accepted it.

My forearms are hairer for sure also. (wise WP)


MATURE feeling! I started feeling more matured and then I knew, oh shit!

I have grown up, just like that. I no longer want to save people, or the planet,

I just want to be the best I can, to be a good human being, to lower my impact on the planet

in whatever way I can. Assisting others to heal, is one way for me. …


ACCEPTANCE! Accepting that this is the body I have which I do amazing things with.

I do yoga. I walk everyday. I do weights. I have sex. I sleep, I eat chocolates, crisp,

I enjoy all the wonderful tastes that I can. I derive great pleasure out of eating yummy

food. I call it my food porn experience. Just look at my facebook, I love good food, no

doubt. It definitely goes with good company and tons of Laughter.

I guess I am at the stage, when you realize, the values of maintaining yourself,

maintaining the vital parts of teeth, ears, eyes and relationships even with yourself,

overall importance.


LOVING yourself is Nurturing yourself enough and Knowing its ok.


I massaged an Australian lady who is in SUCH GOOD condition and I told her how

well maintained she is, SHE  replied with : I LOOK after myself WELL! VERY WELL.

Imagine if 2016, we could all say : I am well looked after, and there was no signs of neglect….


WOW!~what a thought.


Plan of Action: More Reiki and More MASSAGES……………For me, definitely.


Last few days of 39  ######




Everyday life by Jenna

Everyday Life

After a bit of a break from the blog (December called for holiday time with the little one and some working on my Suntan), I [intend] to be back with vengeance. WARNING, my pregnant brain is working overtime on thoughts about life, love and everything maternal…
2016 has been a blur of starting grade one, new adventures, challenges and beginnings and to be honest at this time of the year I get so caught up in life and everything going on..
I took some time to think about the year ahead – 2016 is so full with things already going on & given how much I love my life and where I am at now, im quite happy to just carry on – but there is always room for improvement and growth.
I have recently realized how quickly things become “normal” to us. When going/moving somewhere new there is so much amazement and wonder in surroundings, scenery, people, places and this all seems to become “normal” so quickly. I wake up to the most incredible place, view, family, space, farm, life… everyday but still seem to find myself having to remind myself to be grateful [seems depressing]. At the same time I also find that after going away or doing something new and exciting, I find so much comfort and joy in coming back home to what is “normal”.
So given this new [depressing or maybe not] insight I have realized one of two things.
Firstly that I need to take time to find the excitement and wonder in these “normal everyday things”. I’m not saying I have a plan to revolutionize making lunchboxes in the funnest possible way – but that there is so much to be REALLY grateful for and I’d like to see that and feel that more naturally.
Secondly, I need to remember, that life is about new experiences, new adventures, getting out there and having fun – things like money, work & admin often get in the way of this and a little spontaneity would do me good once in a while!
It sounds like the easiest thing but for a day or 3 try to just say YES! If you can and it wont kill anyone or cause the world to end, say YES, you’ll realize how often we say no😦.
Given this new outlook (and that packing my bag for a holiday in Thailand wasn’t an option), a little local (guilt free) fun was in order :)! Last week started off with a girls day to the spa, this isn’t really something I’ve ever done before but a morning of nail polish and cupcakes to celebrate a special friends birthday was fun:) and then to end the week off, a visit to my favorite for a massage.
Aches and pains aside, sleep has become something of a novelty lately and I battle to take the time during the day to relax and allow myself to catch up #hyperactivetendancies. A repair massage offers a combination of massage, sound healing, reiki and reflexology… if that’s all gobeldy goop, read RELAXATION AND BLISS! This was my first visit in 2016 and it was well needed, a guilt free massage for a little treat and a time and space to help me think about and reflect on my new thoughts – my body is relaxced and ready to enjoy life EVERYDAY – special or not there is wonder to found and I intend to.
If we need to do “normal life” 90% of the time, then the normal needs to be exciting, fun, full of love, happiness, laughter and zest –  so here’s to trying :)!
On a side note, I may think about starting a weekly lunchbox inspiration post #2016 #change #sayyes #livelifeeveryday

www.growingfree.co.za – Claire’s new beginnings.

       New beginnings


The first week of my new year began with a visit to Colleen at Midlands House of Healing*. The year had turned over but parts of me were left behind. New beginnings don’t come guaranteed. They require open space into which to blossom, which means letting go of the old.

After the indulgences and chaos of the holidays, it was bliss to lie down, breathe out and let Colleen wash me clean. Within a few strokes, with the right crystals and spirit flowing through her hands, Colleen had me feeling freshly laundered and crisp. But as the music and smells of incense and oils swelled around me, I sunk deeper into the moment, into the warmth of its love and acceptance. She was remaking me into the best version of myself. The tension of unforgiven unforgotten memories dissolved and a seed of truth planted itself into the loosened soil of my soul. The truth that the future and past are never ours to own. They are places that we can visit in our dreams, but our only rightful home is in the present. Beneath Colleen’s expert hands my body became putty and my heart and mind melted to match. I was there in that deep beautiful endless answering moment.

On the eve of the new year I had taken 2015 into my mind and grasped at words to describe it. But they remained just beyond my reach. The more I fumbled for them the further they tumbled into the abyss. I couldn’t review the old. I couldn’t make it neat or drag any order from its swirling mess. It was, as life and nature always are, a landscape of change. It had careened down rocky slopes and climbed inexorably up grassy hillsides. It held beauty and tragedy, excitement and boredom, shock and expectation. It held everything and nothing I could hold in my hand. No crystal gems of clarity. Memories and dreams clouded my mind like a soft winter’s mist. But there in that moment, the summer sun played strong and bright at the curtained windows. Outside the raspberry bushes hung heavy with fruit, the cicadas sang, and diamonds raced across the water. I was everywhere and nowhere. I had no need of identity, goals or ambition. I was wrapped in a cocoon of love, drifting without tether.

Whoever you are dear reader, wherever you read these words, have you taken this moment that is yours? This moment right now cupped in your palms is a treasure entirely your own. Drink deep and know what peace is.

*This post was sponsored. To book a session with Colleen and find your own new beginning, call or message her on 0846030604, or follow the link in the sidebar. She is located outside of Howick but can also perform distance healing.

The role of the sociopath predator to the Empath (healer) : Know the signs


The role of the sociapathic predator : From the book:

Highly intuitive people by Heidi Sawyer

Several years ago, I came across a book I was strongly attracted to, yet very afraid to pick up. I kept it on the shelf for a long while before opening it. The book was Martha Stout’s The Sociapath next door.  Since its publication there have been numerous popular texts on the subject to psychopaths, or in American terms, sociapaths. Understanding this area is crucial as a first step to accepting your intuitive process. Why? Because sociapaths are very attracted to Sensitive, empathetic people.

Its estimated that one in 25 people are on the sociapathic scale.

Sociapaths hide in plain sight in life. They are people without a conscience. Although they are generally not mass murderers, aggressive criminals or blatant law-breakers, they are life’s ruthless snipers. They are manipulative and socially cruel, and with a charming persona “butter wouldn’t melt in their innocent mouths”.

In psychiatry, sociapaths are defined as having Anti-social behavioural disorder, and there are numerous references to childhood or teenage delinquency. The  book and movie We need to talk about Kevin give a very clear picture of what a teenage sociopath with a highly aggressive aspect looks like. Generally though, sociapaths operate surreptitiously, hidden among society.

The Hare Psychopathy Checklist – Revised (from : http://www.sociopathicstyle.com/psychopathic-traits/)

  1. GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM — The tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Psychopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything.  A psychopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.
  2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH — A grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Psychopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.
  3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM — An excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Psychopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.
  4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING — Can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.
  5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS — The use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.
  6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT — A lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, cold-hearted, and non-empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.
  7. SHALLOW AFFECT — Emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.
  8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY — A lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.
  9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE — An intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.
  10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS — Expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.
  11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR — A variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.
  12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS — A variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.
  13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS — An inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.
  14. IMPULSIVITY — The occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.
  15. IRRESPONSIBILITY — Repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.
  16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS — A failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.
  17. MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS — A lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.
  18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY — Behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.
  19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE — A revocation of probation or other conditional releases due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.
  20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY — A diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes.The word psychopath can be replaced with the word sociopath throughout this page. The meaning is very similar, if not the same.


Are you able to balance your work and life?

Words of Wisdom!

Total Edification

Maintaining a nearly perfect work-life balance is a hot button topic for learning and development professionals, as much as it is a hot button topic for individuals, working across sectors and industries.


So, here’s something I want to share, before I move on with the actionable stuff! I was working as a publishing editor for a while and the working hours were way too erratic! I would leave for work at 8 am and reach home everyday, latest by 10pm (i.e. a regular day). Thankfully, if I had a “light day” I’d have time to be home by 8:) and if it was a “heavy day”, I’d be at work until 2 am. Now, why am I telling you this? Because, I want to emphasize that I had no life beyond work. I didn’t know how to unwind and relax. And to be honest, I didn’t really…

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