Woman Warriors guide to : Wife, healer, Mother, Protector

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I write this blog being fully embraced the fighter, healer, wife, mother within.

I never wanted to be a Mother. I decided in my teens to refrain from  venturing down the child bearing path, but what I am finding is this does not exempt me from “mothering, nurturing, caring, assisting.”

I sometimes feel like this is a bottomless bucket of endless giving.

The rules of mothering, nurturing, caring, assisting lacks boundaries deeply.

Clear boundaries of saying NO seems absent.

Self care seems to be at the bottom of the life pyramid.

So, we give until we can give no more!  But would it not be wiser to self nurture and

Become more of an empowered warrior woman of speaking our truth when we feel tired.

When we need some nurturing and love and kindness ourselves.

My teacher used to say, there is no difference between giving and receiving, it is just a flow of energy.

In a changing world where fresh food produce has become more expensive and the ever

Lurking sound of ‘draught’ occurring, realizing that we living in the Midlands have enough water, wood, trees and most of us have access to a vegetable garden.

Knowing that we need to prepare for all Kinds of realities, which doesn’t make us negative, but empowers us to be prepared for whatever happens.

To make a agreement with ourselves:

To ground ourselves to the earth everyday, to connect with earth sky spirit.

To rest when tired : 20 min snooze everyday.

To read a book to keep our minds motivated.

To eat wholesome meals, to fuel our bodies.

To eat the chocolate or drink the wine and do the yoga.

To exercise daily, to self care.

To make time to shave, to do facials, or whatever is your pampering time.

To receive treatments of reiki and massage, to keep our balance in tact.

To journal our feelings, so we have a good relationship with our emotional self.

To learn to listen to our Intuition, to be Spirit, to be fierce.

To be protect our home by putting salt at the 4 corners of the house outside.

To place rose-quartz at the entrance and exits of our home.

To smudge our home everyday, to cleanse it.

To have nurturing salt baths to rid ourselves from fatigue.

To wear gemstones of hematite, obsidian, pietersite to protect our energy bodies.

To Stay in our own skin.

To see our partner as an equal and not the enemy.

To realize that every negative actions has a lesson to be learnt.

To realize that every PAIN, carries a soul lesson which we need to attend to.

To be better than the person, we were yesterday, because we can.

Most of all is to LOVE ourselves unconditionally, and make time for YOU!

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Warrior women by Claire : www.growingfree.co.za

Warrior women

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Today I met a warrior. She had braids in her hair and magic in her fingers. She brought me healing just as a shaman would, but she also showed me the path that a warrior walks. She stretched out her palm, as I do to you now, and asked me to join her. Backs proud, strides strong, we will walk together with our heads high and our gaze sharpened, on the watch for danger as a hawk eyes her prey. It is our sacred duty to protect. We protect first ourselves and then our circle. The birth of my daughter drew up something fierce and powerful from the earth beneath my feet. It spiraled up my calves through my gut and circled my heart before flowing down my arms to my fingertips. I am her protector. This will be my role until she can do the job herself. I will protect her from harm, both physical and psychic, which means I will, at times, have to protect her from myself. I must protect her right to be, to stand strong and alone, because that is her future.

You, who are reading this, you already stand alone. It is your responsibility, yours alone, to protect yourself. No-one else will because no-one else can. It is a force that draws up from inside you and shines out with the strength of a star. It is a balance each of us must find for ourselves, that conflicted place between surrender and fight. Some of you forge ahead, bold from birth, and learn as you age the power of softness, of reaching out across dissolving barriers. This is not me. I stand in awe of these women who hold their ground firm and unwavering. I see it in men too, the warrior-like strength that helps them force their unique path into a world clustered with agenda. But these words I write to warrior women, because our image has been shadowed and tarnished by history and expectation. We are told our value lies exclusively in softness, in surrender, in the pretty and the gentle. Where is the praise for courage in women, for feist and fight and nerve? I call you to join me in a celebration of the warrior in women. We will seek it out and nurture it in our daughters like an unfurling sapling. We will look for it in the women beside us and cheer and applaud as they brandish sword and shield. This is how we will bring balance to ourselves and to society.

Nature and nurture placed me as an outsider. I am the one who looks in, sees the fire licking in the grate and weaves a world of understanding from stolen glimpses. My personality is wound up in writing and expressing, in being a seeker of knowledge. But growing involves moving ever towards the edge. To become the person I am meant to be, I need to learn when to grab the war paint. If I stand out in the open, complacent and naive, I will be trampled by those passing through, leaving my spirit bruised and limp. I cannot be the wife, mother, friend, artist, lover, worker, woman I want to be if my gate is endlessly open. What about the lumbering cows who wander in and eat the tuft of lemongrass in a single mouthful, and crush the strawberries beneath their hooves? The damage is no less devastating for being unintended. And then there are those who, in envy or pain, wreak havoc with blows well-aimed. They will come, and they will look for a way in if they can. The only chance we have of keeping our daughters safe and whole is to teach them to fight for themselves.

Colleen of the Midlands House of Healing is my braided warrior and the sponsor of this post. Her healing sessions show me the way towards strength from within. She affirms my right to stand strong. She taught me to protect my home with smudge sticks and scatterings of salt. She told me how to carry protection with me as I travel to the four corners of the world, by placing rose quartz at the four corners of my bed, and hematite under my pillow, to trail wafts of sage and incense smoke, and drops of lavender and eucalyptus to cleanse. She is currently working on the design of women’s workshops, to foster a sisterhood of strength and beauty. The first workshop is scheduled for April 2016. Call or message her on 084 603 0604 for more details of the workshop or to book your own healing session at her bucolic abode outside Howick. Follow the link in the sidebar to like her Facebook page for updates.

16 days to Turning 40!

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So, I will be turning 40 years old,  in 16 days  time. Forty! All of me was freaking out because

I never wanted to be this old, OMG!  I wanted to be young and child-like forever, free of this age thing.

I can feel my body is starting to change, it is requiring more and more maintenance.

I don’t mind the growing old, I do mind the more maintenance part.

Maintenance how—>>  you ask?

Dentistry! I have been to the dentist 4 times this year, drilling, fixing, telling me,

my gums are receding due to age, and that I must be more careful.

Optometrist! I could no longer read the “fine”print on labels, so I needed new spectacles.

I now have 3 pairs of spectacles, one for reading, one for seeing long distance, one for the sunshine. (feeling old)

Reading a label at any Pick ‘n Pay store, feels like a mission. Just like cleaning my spectacles, I need

a pair of specs to clean and to see it.  (old age)

Maintaining! I have started doing gym training again because I love feeling stronger but

what I used to do, seems old, so I have to add new strengthening methods to achieve the same

results.

 

Sanctuary!  I love being in my space at home, it makes me feel so good, so much so that

I don’t want to go anywhere, anymore.  I am a hobbit! a Creature of habit too.

 

SHAG fit!  In my 20s I could do a weekend of shagging, with little or no sleep, it was a marathon.

Poor WP was to happy to go to work on Monday mornings!  If I have to choose sleep vs shag, I choose sleep.

I need more sleep. I am loving sleep. Sleep is my friend.

 

I feel bad because his parents shag 3 times a week, and I battle to keep up! (lame hey)

It appears that if you don’t use it, you loose it, and hey I do love a good orgasm or  50!

Everyone woman does, Vitamin P is good for you.

 

Snooze!  Every afternoon, I sneak in a snooze! it is the mostly heavenly feeling ever.

 

Hair!  I was watching Wp shave the other day and the razor found its way to his nostrils,

this picture stuck in my head and I illustrated it to him with much laughter, his rebuff to me

wait wait, you’ll be 40 and hairer…..It is true. My hair is growing, with the odd grey curly hair

reaching for the ceiling, so far, I have counted 6 new grey hairs this week. So I accepted it.

My forearms are hairer for sure also. (wise WP)

 

MATURE feeling! I started feeling more matured and then I knew, oh shit!

I have grown up, just like that. I no longer want to save people, or the planet,

I just want to be the best I can, to be a good human being, to lower my impact on the planet

in whatever way I can. Assisting others to heal, is one way for me. …

 

ACCEPTANCE! Accepting that this is the body I have which I do amazing things with.

I do yoga. I walk everyday. I do weights. I have sex. I sleep, I eat chocolates, crisp,

I enjoy all the wonderful tastes that I can. I derive great pleasure out of eating yummy

food. I call it my food porn experience. Just look at my facebook, I love good food, no

doubt. It definitely goes with good company and tons of Laughter.

I guess I am at the stage, when you realize, the values of maintaining yourself,

maintaining the vital parts of teeth, ears, eyes and relationships even with yourself,

overall importance.

 

LOVING yourself is Nurturing yourself enough and Knowing its ok.

 

I massaged an Australian lady who is in SUCH GOOD condition and I told her how

well maintained she is, SHE  replied with : I LOOK after myself WELL! VERY WELL.

Imagine if 2016, we could all say : I am well looked after, and there was no signs of neglect….

 

WOW!~what a thought.

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Plan of Action: More Reiki and More MASSAGES……………For me, definitely.

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Last few days of 39  ######

Colleen

 

 

Everyday life by Jenna

Everyday Life

After a bit of a break from the blog (December called for holiday time with the little one and some working on my Suntan), I [intend] to be back with vengeance. WARNING, my pregnant brain is working overtime on thoughts about life, love and everything maternal…
2016 has been a blur of starting grade one, new adventures, challenges and beginnings and to be honest at this time of the year I get so caught up in life and everything going on..
I took some time to think about the year ahead – 2016 is so full with things already going on & given how much I love my life and where I am at now, im quite happy to just carry on – but there is always room for improvement and growth.
I have recently realized how quickly things become “normal” to us. When going/moving somewhere new there is so much amazement and wonder in surroundings, scenery, people, places and this all seems to become “normal” so quickly. I wake up to the most incredible place, view, family, space, farm, life… everyday but still seem to find myself having to remind myself to be grateful [seems depressing]. At the same time I also find that after going away or doing something new and exciting, I find so much comfort and joy in coming back home to what is “normal”.
So given this new [depressing or maybe not] insight I have realized one of two things.
Firstly that I need to take time to find the excitement and wonder in these “normal everyday things”. I’m not saying I have a plan to revolutionize making lunchboxes in the funnest possible way – but that there is so much to be REALLY grateful for and I’d like to see that and feel that more naturally.
Secondly, I need to remember, that life is about new experiences, new adventures, getting out there and having fun – things like money, work & admin often get in the way of this and a little spontaneity would do me good once in a while!
It sounds like the easiest thing but for a day or 3 try to just say YES! If you can and it wont kill anyone or cause the world to end, say YES, you’ll realize how often we say no :(.
Given this new outlook (and that packing my bag for a holiday in Thailand wasn’t an option), a little local (guilt free) fun was in order :)! Last week started off with a girls day to the spa, this isn’t really something I’ve ever done before but a morning of nail polish and cupcakes to celebrate a special friends birthday was fun :) and then to end the week off, a visit to my favorite for a massage.
Aches and pains aside, sleep has become something of a novelty lately and I battle to take the time during the day to relax and allow myself to catch up #hyperactivetendancies. A repair massage offers a combination of massage, sound healing, reiki and reflexology… if that’s all gobeldy goop, read RELAXATION AND BLISS! This was my first visit in 2016 and it was well needed, a guilt free massage for a little treat and a time and space to help me think about and reflect on my new thoughts – my body is relaxced and ready to enjoy life EVERYDAY – special or not there is wonder to found and I intend to.
If we need to do “normal life” 90% of the time, then the normal needs to be exciting, fun, full of love, happiness, laughter and zest –  so here’s to trying :)!
On a side note, I may think about starting a weekly lunchbox inspiration post #2016 #change #sayyes #livelifeeveryday

www.growingfree.co.za – Claire’s new beginnings.

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The first week of my new year began with a visit to Colleen at Midlands House of Healing*. The year had turned over but parts of me were left behind. New beginnings don’t come guaranteed. They require open space into which to blossom, which means letting go of the old.

After the indulgences and chaos of the holidays, it was bliss to lie down, breathe out and let Colleen wash me clean. Within a few strokes, with the right crystals and spirit flowing through her hands, Colleen had me feeling freshly laundered and crisp. But as the music and smells of incense and oils swelled around me, I sunk deeper into the moment, into the warmth of its love and acceptance. She was remaking me into the best version of myself. The tension of unforgiven unforgotten memories dissolved and a seed of truth planted itself into the loosened soil of my soul. The truth that the future and past are never ours to own. They are places that we can visit in our dreams, but our only rightful home is in the present. Beneath Colleen’s expert hands my body became putty and my heart and mind melted to match. I was there in that deep beautiful endless answering moment.

On the eve of the new year I had taken 2015 into my mind and grasped at words to describe it. But they remained just beyond my reach. The more I fumbled for them the further they tumbled into the abyss. I couldn’t review the old. I couldn’t make it neat or drag any order from its swirling mess. It was, as life and nature always are, a landscape of change. It had careened down rocky slopes and climbed inexorably up grassy hillsides. It held beauty and tragedy, excitement and boredom, shock and expectation. It held everything and nothing I could hold in my hand. No crystal gems of clarity. Memories and dreams clouded my mind like a soft winter’s mist. But there in that moment, the summer sun played strong and bright at the curtained windows. Outside the raspberry bushes hung heavy with fruit, the cicadas sang, and diamonds raced across the water. I was everywhere and nowhere. I had no need of identity, goals or ambition. I was wrapped in a cocoon of love, drifting without tether.

Whoever you are dear reader, wherever you read these words, have you taken this moment that is yours? This moment right now cupped in your palms is a treasure entirely your own. Drink deep and know what peace is.

*This post was sponsored. To book a session with Colleen and find your own new beginning, call or message her on 0846030604, or follow the link in the sidebar. She is located outside of Howick but can also perform distance healing.

The role of the sociopath predator to the Empath (healer) : Know the signs

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The role of the sociapathic predator : From the book:

Highly intuitive people by Heidi Sawyer

Several years ago, I came across a book I was strongly attracted to, yet very afraid to pick up. I kept it on the shelf for a long while before opening it. The book was Martha Stout’s The Sociapath next door.  Since its publication there have been numerous popular texts on the subject to psychopaths, or in American terms, sociapaths. Understanding this area is crucial as a first step to accepting your intuitive process. Why? Because sociapaths are very attracted to Sensitive, empathetic people.

Its estimated that one in 25 people are on the sociapathic scale.

Sociapaths hide in plain sight in life. They are people without a conscience. Although they are generally not mass murderers, aggressive criminals or blatant law-breakers, they are life’s ruthless snipers. They are manipulative and socially cruel, and with a charming persona “butter wouldn’t melt in their innocent mouths”.

In psychiatry, sociapaths are defined as having Anti-social behavioural disorder, and there are numerous references to childhood or teenage delinquency. The  book and movie We need to talk about Kevin give a very clear picture of what a teenage sociopath with a highly aggressive aspect looks like. Generally though, sociapaths operate surreptitiously, hidden among society.

The Hare Psychopathy Checklist – Revised (from : http://www.sociopathicstyle.com/psychopathic-traits/)

  1. GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM — The tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Psychopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything.  A psychopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.
  2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH — A grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Psychopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.
  3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM — An excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Psychopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.
  4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING — Can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.
  5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS — The use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.
  6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT — A lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, cold-hearted, and non-empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.
  7. SHALLOW AFFECT — Emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.
  8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY — A lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.
  9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE — An intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.
  10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS — Expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.
  11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR — A variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.
  12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS — A variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.
  13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS — An inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.
  14. IMPULSIVITY — The occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.
  15. IRRESPONSIBILITY — Repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.
  16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS — A failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.
  17. MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS — A lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.
  18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY — Behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.
  19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE — A revocation of probation or other conditional releases due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.
  20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY — A diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes.The word psychopath can be replaced with the word sociopath throughout this page. The meaning is very similar, if not the same.

 

Dear Woman, you are not a man

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Dear Woman, you are not a man.

You are a woman, you have a Vagina, so you are different, YOU feel more.  

You are not weak but men would want you to believe, you are weak.

You are not. You are powerful.

You are beautiful. You are smart.

You are soft, but will fight when you need to, letting your warrior out.

You are called to serve others needs, sacrificing you.

You have taken on Womanhood, motherhood and You loose parts of yourself in serving these roles.

Don’t be afraid, you are not alone. You can be strong and ask for help.

You can say enough, I need this.

You can be vulnerable and cry.

You can share, your feelings, speak out.

You can be the amazing woman, you were born to be.

It starts with LOVING you, Nurturing you and becoming whole on the inside, loving your  heart.

Stop suppressing your female side or subduing who you are.

Walk slower, Drive slower, talk with passion. Play. Paint. Read a book.

Dress fabulously and create whatever you desire.

Enjoy the pleasures of a great lover, a friend, some good wine, eye rolling orgasms, yoga

Enjoy massages, reiki and healing.  Be You!

Life is short, don’t empty yours by forgetting who you are.

Remember, remember, you are a woman! Be a woman.

By Colleen van Heerden

 

 

Dear New Mum : Your survival guide

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Dear New Mum

Creating new life in your body is an experience. Your chakras filter through double the amount of energy to sustain new life. Your organs start to move and re arrange themselves. Your body becomes more of a OVEN and it feels like you start to fade away. Your body starts having a mind of its own………

Fact is your entire world and life is about to change, a new journey begins.

The person you once knew, starts to become a mother.

Start with eating oats for breakfast to reduce the morning sickness,  and stimulate your body with wholesome good fruit and vegetables so you can sustain your body and not put on to much weight.

After 15 successful pregnancy and happy moms, I decided to write about what I have experienced.

The key to a successful pregnancy, birth is your starting point : Attitude, Motivation and determination.

You are certainly NOT your pregnancy. You can decide to make it as beautiful and romantic as you want. Shut out all the NAYsayers, the people who freely give their opinion without validation.

You can choose to have a Nurturing, loving, special pregnancy, the choice is YOURS.

What has made all of these 15 pregnancies amazing, is that the baby is Created with INTENTION, an intention of love, kindness and welcoming!

It started with REIKI and Massage, a loving experience. Every week or every second week the MOM would receive a Session to LOVE and Nurture her body.  The baby loves this experience and often will take a nap  with Mom.

A special connection and birth preparation is energetically ignited within, a special bond of Intuition and Knowing is created.

I admire woman as they have such dedication and fortitude to be NEW mom’s.

In todays fast paced life, deciding to have a baby, you need a community, you need

A Supportive husband, parents, friends and helpers.  The key is to ask for HELP, often.

If you have a nanny or a maid use this time wisely to do things that you love, like sleep or nap.

Every mom wants to do her best for her child and create a safe, healthy life for her baby.

Nurturing you is the KEY to surviving parenthood.

Please do join :  Berry Diaries, explore her journey of Motherhood.

Connect with other moms and share experiences of being a woman and have a good support system.

This is a Life long journey of being a parent, but also adapting to a new role which

Has endless needs, the key is to keep your balance and receive massage and reiki often as

This will help you do more.

If you don’t have my details, here you go : Colleen van Heerden 084 603 0604/ email : midlandshouseofhealing@gmail.com book your recharge session.

 

 

 

 

Are we born gay?

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I once read a book explaining how the hormones of the pregnant

mother affects the sexual orientation of the baby. I immediately felt so bad,

because my religious upbringing portrayed it, to be evil or a curse, well it is not so.

Once, I had read this, I felt a deeper compassion for gays, lesbians, trans-sexual beings.

Being Gay isn’t easy, so who would choose it? No -one, if they think about it, would?

You are judged by religious people, judged by your family, rejected,

ridiculed just because of your sexual orientation. Wow!

I first met a gay hair dresser when I was 5 years old.

“She was friends with my mom, she dressed fabulously, her hair, make up,

clothes were impeccable. She walked with grace and flowed like a  dove.

I thought that she was beautiful. I was 5, I had no clue as to what gay was.

When I told my grandmother about how beautiful she was, my aunt said,

she was gay! She was a man. I was horrified at how someone so gorgeous

could be stuck in a mans body, I felt sad for her and how difficult it must be

for him.(that was in the 80’s)  Compassion this is all I felt then.

i am enough

 

Being a human being is filled with challenges.

Being a human being and gay makes it even more difficult to be embraced

by others. It seems one’s sexual orientation, is judged, without compassion.

Lets start changing the world. Lets accept more what we do not understand.

Lets judge less because babies are born with the sexual inclination already chosen.

read : http://www.boston.com/news/globe/magazine/articles/2005/08/14/what_makes_people_gay

Decide to research this subject more.

Knowing that your body possess’s both male and female energy, we have immortal souls,

and we are spirit.

Does sexual orientation matter?  Is it like being a vegetarian or a vegan? which gets judged anyway?

Is it not loving and kind to just respect what we eat  and to just respect each other for what

makes us happy, without the judgement ? of doom or gloom?  (which I don’t believe in anyway)

Who can actually tell you what makes you happy, better than you.

What fulfils the void within?

What fulfils your spirit and soul.

Only you can decide what makes you happy, what fulfils the love within

and what makes you feel complete.

More love, more tolerance, more acceptance, more being your true self.

Some things cannot be explained, but only felt from the heart, it is LOVE.

 

giver of gratitude

6 handed reiki session and reiki ing horses

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Today was a spectacular day of Reiki.

It started with a 6 handed reiki session with Colleen, WP, Raen and Isobel.

We took turns receiving Reiki, and it was amazing.

In the afternoon, we journeyed down to the Dargle to Reiki 11 horses and the magic continued.

Enjoy some of the amazing pictures which were taken.

 

8 years after India

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Auroville in Tamil Nadu, India has changed me.

Working and living at the Auroville Earth Institute within Auroville, changed me. Satprem Maiini was a big influence in my life.

I was faced with my shadow self and my detoxing from the corporate world, which I knew.

Working on site to make bricks for project Realization, cycling 20 km a day and sweating my ass off, definitely played a role in changing my view of life.

I saw poor people. I sat on the floor and ate. I visited a Ashram in Pondicherry. I felt the presence of unconditional love.

I had my tarot read by a parrot on my birthday. I got my nose pierced in a dodgy place and didn’t even shed a tear.

I laughed. I ate. I learnt to drive a motorcycle, in India.

India lives in my heart and every year, it calls to me, my heart yearns for the wild passionate, heart felt people there.

India taught me that I can do anything I choose. I am responsible for whatever I create, good or bad.

I found my true self there. I learnt to love myself, whatever shape or size I am.

I learned to Laugh more, to live in this magical moment of life.

I learnt to sing to the stars and enjoy the moonlight.

I learnt about true friendship, for others and that we are all connected.

I became more me. I discovered that I wasn’t a doormat and that I am a fierce warrior, I will fight for what I believe in.

I will protect those I love and I will do all I can, if its in my power to assist.

The line of big heartedness and warrior is thin and sometimes the fire will escape and you ll get burnt.

I learnt about being a Goddess within, a powerful woman of magic, a force within myself.

I was uncomfortable, I was eaten by mosquitos, I grew a fungus in my ear, I laughed, I embraced every aspect of every moment because I could feel my soul growing as the sweat dripped off my body.

I knew deep within that this experience will help me define who I am, what I stood for.

Every day was a learning curve, a new journey of challenges to overcome.

Every day we learnt more about a culture, the depth and deepness to understand and be part of the bigger picture of humanity.

I have visited this space 3 times in my life and every time, I have grown stronger in Character because I was uncomfortable, because I challenged myself to look deeper than the surface and I begun to SHINE!

 

Find your journey! Find Your Spirit, begun a new chapter this 2016!

visit : http://www.auroville.org    – Go live a little more.

 

 

Changing the world, one baby at a time : baby no 13

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I met Nicola 3 years ago (I think). She worked for Ruby Orchard, as an assistant.

She was 27 years old, young, smart and a talented graphic designer.

Her boss loved her but I definitely saw more of her potential when I looked into her soul.

I encouraged her to quit her job and be free and

become her own boss.

She ventured down the exercise road and started boot camps for woman, she jogged and got into

shape for marathons. She became more disciplined and more discerning about people and

the influence of her diet on her body. When she ate crap, she felt like crap. When she hung out with negative

people, she felt negative.

Slowly and surely, she was starting to growing her spirit with yoga, meditation,

and healing. (Sessions of Reiki and massage often…)

Nicola has blossomed and will continue to grow in her personal life as a mother,

as a professional driven graphic designer and everything else that her life offers.

 

It all started with 1 reiki session….a New Journey begun.

At the end of January 2015, I remember warning her about the positive effects of Reiki

and that it makes you super fertile.  She was in good space, her business flourishing,

she was strong, fit, calm and ready for the next step  of motherhood and womanhood.

Three months later before her 30th birthday, she said Ella was on her way.

We had so much fun on this journey together. We asked Ella all kinds of questions from

the time she was conceived. Hair colour, Eye colour, gender type, Personality ?  Ella

is a smart kid for sure, she answered all our questions.

 

Last week I met Ella in person for the first time,  she instantly recognised me.

We connected, I held her, and I nearly cried.

She is calm and at peace.

I held her while reiki ing Nicola. She followed me around the room with

her blue eyes and kept my eyes locked on her.

She is as beautiful as what I saw. A peaceful baby, filled with love, strong,

healthy and magical.

 

I am honoured by this Journey. Thank you  Nicola and Ella,  this was one of those

amazing moments of my life. Thank you.

 

 

Addicted to your pain ?

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We all experience pain differently. Some can discuss their pain. Some carry their pain and others.

Some pains are stored. Some pain is evident. The thing about pain either emotional or physical pain or psychological

is that it can be fixed, repaired and healed. PAIN is thus our greatest teacher.

Your body communicates LOUDLY to you with PAIN.  Pain makes you aware of an imbalance

in your body, whether its spiritual or emotional. Within this pain there is LOVE !

 

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Pain once released is replaced with LOVE and Wholeness.

Like releasing tension and pain from a sore muscle, it heals itself.

Don’t be attached to the PAIN, you get addicted to the ‘feeling’of pain sensation when

you refuse to address or release it.

Pain is inevitable sometimes, but SUFFERING is Optional.

Want a painfree body?  Book your session with me  084 603 0604!

Pain

 

New beginnings with Claire : www.growingfree.co.za

New beginnings

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The first week of my new year began with a visit to Colleen at Midlands House of Healing*. The year had turned over but parts of me were left behind. New beginnings don’t come guaranteed. They require open space into which to blossom, which means letting go of the old.

After the indulgences and chaos of the holidays, it was bliss to lie down, breathe out and let Colleen wash me clean. Within a few strokes, with the right crystals and spirit flowing through her hands, Colleen had me feeling freshly laundered and crisp. But as the music and smells of incense and oils swelled around me, I sunk deeper into the moment, into the warmth of its love and acceptance. She was remaking me into the best version of myself. The tension of unforgiven unforgotten memories dissolved and a seed of truth planted itself into the loosened soil of my soul. The truth that the future and past are never ours to own. They are places that we can visit in our dreams, but our only rightful home is in the present. Beneath Colleen’s expert hands my body became putty and my heart and mind melted to match. I was there in that deep beautiful endless answering moment.

On the eve of the new year I had taken 2015 into my mind and grasped at words to describe it. But they remained just beyond my reach. The more I fumbled for them the further they tumbled into the abyss. I couldn’t review the old. I couldn’t make it neat or drag any order from its swirling mess. It was, as life and nature always are, a landscape of change. It had careened down rocky slopes and climbed inexorably up grassy hillsides. It held beauty and tragedy, excitement and boredom, shock and expectation. It held everything and nothing I could hold in my hand. No crystal gems of clarity. Memories and dreams clouded my mind like a soft winter’s mist. But there in that moment, the summer sun played strong and bright at the curtained windows. Outside the raspberry bushes hung heavy with fruit, the cicadas sang, and diamonds raced across the water. I was everywhere and nowhere. I had no need of identity, goals or ambition. I was wrapped in a cocoon of love, drifting without tether.

Whoever you are dear reader, wherever you read these words, have you taken this moment that is yours? This moment right now cupped in your palms is a treasure entirely your own. Drink deep and know what peace is.

*This post was sponsored. To book a session with Colleen and find your own new beginning, call or message her on 0846030604, or follow the link in the sidebar. She is located outside of Howick but can also perform distance healing.

Your Self view of your body!

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Today I weighed myself after a few months, I still weigh 95kg.

I have gained muscles but the flabby pack is still where I am at.

I also went swimming at Lemonwood cottages today in a costume which is big for me.

I wore the shortest shorts today without being shy, and yes guys and girls … definitely checked me out.

(I didn’t mind)

I have been doing some self analysis about bodies and how I feel about my body.

Does what I weigh affect my life? Does what I weigh affect my sex life?

Does what I weigh make a difference to how many orgasms, I have?

The answer to all of this is NO! No, No, No.

body wise

I used to be an athlete, I still feel like running kilometres, gyming for hours but I am becoming more and more comfortable about just being healthy and fit to do what I love.

What I love is living, eating amazing foods, doing yoga, massaging, doing reiki, going for walks every morning and doing weights when I choose to.

I am me. I love me, no scale can tell me that.

 To Every single woman I massage, they criticise their body, from age 18 to 73. Society promotes inadequacy, promotes lack of acceptance, promotes materialism to fill the whole in your soul, but buying does fulfil darling.

What does fulfil is Loving yourself unconditionally and loving your body as you are now.

I see all of these weight loss adverts, so what if you’re thin, that certainly doesn’t ensure happiness.

I am happy. I am whole, I am loved as I am.

My size only matters to others, who are naysayers, who don’t really matter.

So, here are some interesting woman to look at : who are big, who do yoga, weights, gyming, etc….. :

#instagram biggalyoga

#http://imperfectlife.net/ilovemyuglybody/

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The effects of having a unloving mother

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201304/daughters-unloving-mothers-7-common-wounds

In the years since I researched and wrote Mean Mothers, I’ve talked to women about our shared experiences.  Every woman’s story is different, of course; perhaps the greatest commonality is the discovery that each of us is not alone, that we are not the only girls or women on the planet to have had mothers who can’t or won’t love them.   The taboos about “dissing” our mothers and the myths of motherhood which portray all mothers as loving isolate unloved daughters, and that discovery lifts part of the hurt and the burden but not at all of it.  This catalogue of what can happen to a daughter who grows up without a mother’s love and support is derived from anecdote, not a scientific survey; it’s not meant to be inclusive either.   And again, I write not as a psychologist or therapist, but as a fellow traveler.

Why these wounds are common is amply explained by attachment theory, first proposed by Mary Ainsworth but expanded by the work of Mary Main and many others.

In infancy and childhood, a daughter catches the first glimpse of herself in the mirror that is her mother’s face.  If her mother is loving and attuned, the baby is securely attached; she learns both that she is loved and loveable.  That sense of being loveable —worthy of affection and attention, of being seen and heard —becomes the bedrock on which her earliest sense of self is built, and provides the energy for its growth.

The daughter of an unloving mother —one who is emotionally distant, withholding, or inconsistent, or even hypercritical or cruel—learns different lessons about the world and herself.  The underlying problem, of course, is how dependent a human infant is on her mother for nurturance and survival, and the circumscribed nature of her world.  What results is insecure attachment, characterized as either “ambivalent” (the child doesn’t know whether the good mommy or the bad one will show up) or “avoidant” (the daughter wants her mother’s love but is afraid of the consequences of seeking it).  Ambivalent attachment teaches a child that the world of relationship is unreliable; avoidant attachment sets up a terrible conflict between the child’s needs both for her mother’s love and for protection against her mother’s emotional or physical abuse.

Early attachments form the internal templates or mental representations we have about how relationships work in the world.  Without therapy or intervention, these mental representations tend to be relatively stable.

The key thing here is that the daughter’s need for her mother’s love is primal and a driving force, and that need isn’t diminished by its unavailability.  That need coexists with the terrible and damaging understanding that the one person who is supposed to love you without condition doesn’t.  The struggle to heal and cope is a mighty one, affecting many, if not all parts, of the self, but especially in the area of relationship.

The work of Cindy Hazan and Philip Shaver (and, later, others) showed that early childhood attachments were highly predictive of adult romantic relationships, as well as friendships.  It won’t surprise you that the most common wounds are those to the self and the area of emotional connection.

The point of looking at these wounds isn’t to bemoan them or throw up our hands in despair at the mother-love cards we were dealt but to become conscious and aware of them.  Consciousness is the first step in an unloved daughter’s healing.  All too often, we simply accept these behaviors in ourselves without knowing their point of origin.

1. Lack of confidence

The unloved daughter doesn’t know that she is loveable or worthy of attention; she may have grown up feeling ignored or unheard or criticized at every turn.  The voice in her head is that of her mother’s, telling her what she isn’t (smart, beautiful, kind, loving, worthy).  Her accomplishments and talents will continue to be undermined by that internalized maternal voice, unless there is some kind of intervention.  Daughters sometimes talk about feeling that they are “fooling people” and express fear that they’ll be “found out” when they enjoy success in the world.

2. Lack of trust

“I always wonder,” one woman confides, “why someone wants to be my friend.  I can’t help myself from thinking whether there’s some kind of hidden agenda, you know, and I’ve learned in therapy that that has everything to do with my mother.”   These trust issues emanate from that sense that relationships are fundamentally unreliable, and flow over into both friendships and romantic relationships.  As reported by Hazan and Shaver in their work, the ambivalently attached daughter needs constant validation that trust is warranted and, in their words, these people “experienced love as involving obsession, a desire for reciprocation and union, emotional highs and lows, and extreme sexual attraction and jealousy.”  Trust and the inability to set boundaries are, as it happens, closely connected.

3. Difficulty setting boundaries

Many daughters, caught between their need for their mother’s attention and its absence, report that they become “pleasers” in adult relationships or are unable to set other boundaries which make for healthy and emotionally sustaining relationships.  A number of unloved daughters report problems with maintaining close female friendships, which are complicated by issues of trust (“How do I know she’s really my friend?”), not being able to say ‘no’ (“Somehow, I always end up being a doormat, doing too much, and I get used or disappointed in the end”), or wanting a relationship so intense that the other person backs off.   Insecurely attached daughters often end up creating scenarios that are more like the “Goldilocks and Three Bears” story than not —never quite right but, somehow, either too “hot” or too “cold.”

This is often true in romantic relationships as well.  Kim Bartholomew’s work helpfully further divides those who are avoidantly attached into two categories— “fearful” and “dismissive.”  Both share the same avoidance of intimacy but for different reasons.  The “fearful” actively seek close relationships but are afraid of intimacy on all levels; they are intensely vulnerable, and tend to be clingy and dependent.  The “dismissives” are armored and detached, perhaps defensively; their avoidance is more straightforward.  Alas, both types aren’t able to get the kind of emotional connection that could move them closer to healing.

4.  Difficulty seeing the self accurately

One woman shares what she has finally learned in therapy: “When I was a child, my mother held me back by focusing on my flaws, never my accomplishments.   After college, I had a number of jobs but, at every one, my bosses complained that I wasn’t pushing hard enough to try to grow.  It was only then that I realized that I was limiting myself, adopting my mother’s view of me in the world.”   Much of this has to do with internalizing all you were told growing up, and these distortions in how we see ourselves may extend into every domain, including your looks.   (I personally have scoured photos of my teenage years, looking for the girl my own mother called “fat.”  She also called me “unloveable” which, alas, isn’t as easy to verify or dispute in a picture.  That took years.)  Other daughters report feeling surprised when they succeed at something, as well as being hesitant to try something new so as to reduce the possibility of failure.  This isn’t just a question of low self-esteem but something more profound.           

           5.  Making avoidance the default position

Lacking confidence or feeling fearful sometimes puts the unloved daughter in a defensive crouch so that she’s avoiding being hurt by a bad connection rather than being motivated by the possibility of finding a stable and loving one.  These women, on the surface, may act as though they want to be in a relationship but, on a deeper though less conscious level, they are really motivated more by avoidance.  The work of Hazan, Shaver, and Bartholomew bears this out.  Unfortunately, avoidance —whether triggered by fear, mistrust or something else —actively prevents the unloved daughter from finding the kind of loving and supportive relationships she’s always sought.

           6.  Being overly sensitive

An unloved daughter may be sensitive to slights, real and imagined; a random comment may carry the weight of her childhood experience without her even being aware of it.  “I’ve had to really focus on my reactions or, better put, over-reactions,” says one woman, now in her forties.  “Sometimes, I mistake what’s meant as banter as something else and I end up worrying it to death until I shake myself and realize the person really meant nothing by it.”  Having a mother who’s unattuned also means that unloved daughters often have trouble managing emotions; they tend to overthink and ruminate as well.

           7.  Replicating the Mother bond in relationships

Alas, we tend to be drawn to what we know —those situations which, while they make us unhappy in the end, are nonetheless “comfortable” because they are familiar to us.  While securely attached individuals tend to go out into the world seeking people who have similar histories of attachment, unluckily, so do the ambivalently and avoidantly attached.  This sometimes has the effect of unwittingly replicating the maternal relationship.  “I married my mother, for sure,” one woman says, “He was on the surface completely different from my mother but, in the end, he treated me much the same way, the same seesaw of not knowing how he would be with me.  Like my mother, he was indifferent and attentive by turns, horribly critical or vaguely supportive.” She ended up divorcing both her husband and her mother.

This list in mind, the day a daughter takes stock of her wounds is the first day of her healing, and her journey towards new self-awareness and possibility.

Let’s toast to the healing and to all the tomorrows!

Copyright 2013 Peg Streep

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Hazan. Cindy and Philip Shaver. “Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment Process,”  Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (1997). Vol. 42(3): 511-524.

Bartholomew, Kim and Leonard M. Horowitz. “Attachment Styles Among Young adults: A Test of a Four-Category Model,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (1991), vol.101 (2): 226-244.

Holmes, Bjarne M. and Kimberly R. Johnson.  “Adult Attachment and Romantic Partner Preference: A Review,” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (2009), vol..26 (6-7): 833-852.

Finding your Sacred Space

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As a child I loved going to my Catholic church. I loved the wafting of the frankincense during mass.

I loved the intention of prayer over the holy waver, I loved the lifting of the challis in dedication to God. The altar was special, decorated with flowers and silk cloth.

When I became a charismatic born again Christian, the sacred space changed to the igniting of the holy spirit and speaking in tongues, during praise and worship, a flowing of the magic.

As I grew into becoming a Reform Jew, the sacred space changed to a deeper magic of praying in Hebrew of feeling the “Ha-Shekinach”the female spirit of God, which was felt when the Rabbi read from the Torah, when I was called to pray in Hebrew and blessed by this experience.

Many years later, I have felt the sacred spaces in Temples, tombs, ashrams and when people pray with a genuine heart, this is where love and sacred spaces reside.

All of this was my sacred and holy space.

Every day I create a sacred space in my healing room.

I pray a week in advance, I waft incense with special signs into my room.

I prepare my altar of the massage bed as a sacred space, awaiting magic.

To pray, to heal, to serve, to create magic of love, with infinite healing possibilities.

I know that I am the vessel, and the magic of the LOVE resides within ourselves.

This healing which is ignited by LOVE, will heal the body within.

The door will open, the magic will flow and you will leave feeling better, whole, you a new.

This is my sacred space of magic which I create everyday!

A new body, a renewed soul, to serve, to help, to love.

 Book your space 084 603 0604, for queries on learning Reiki or Massage:

midlandshouseofhealing@gmail.com

http://www.midlandshouseofhealing.co.za

 

Be Beautiful

 

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We are beautiful. Beauty is found in the rising of the sun.

Beauty is in your attitude of genuine concern, friendliness and happiness for another.

Beauty is having a glowing smile.

Beauty is wanting to serve, to mend the broken.

Beauty is not seen but felt deeply within your heart.

Beauty  is one of the wonderful gifts of having an open heart.

We need to stop more and enjoy the pleasures of being.

Resting and absorbing the beauty around us.

Beauty of listening to a song that we love.

Beauty of making someone tea after a hard day.

Beauty of hugging your loved one, giving comfort.

Beauty of looking deeper within and knowing that it will be ok.

Beauty of meeting someone amazing who shines brightly far and wide.

Beauty of knowing that good will always overcome the bad.

Beauty of gratitude of great Spirit.

Beauty of the Universe that we are connected to a great source of Magic and Love.

Knowing that beauty is not contained in a shape or size, but a heartfelt feeling of

Loving oneself.

Beauty of loving unconditionally because You can and want to.

Beauty of overlooking the flaws of humanity and knowing that only you can change you.

Beauty of Being beautiful even when its hard, tough, intense but it will bring forth a greater strength within.

Beauty of knowing your self worth of being a amazing human being, to be you.

 Beautiful

40 rules of love : 7 stages on the Path to Truth

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I am reading this book, I am ingesting some of it, I find it interesting intriguing and

wholesome:

Thank you to Donna Joy Ford for these words :

http://donnajoyford.blogspot.co.za/2011/05/forty-rules-of-love-elif-shafak.html

seven stages on the Path to Truth—seven maqamat every ego had to go through in order to attain Oneness. The first stage is the Depraved Nafs, the most primitive and common state of being, when the soul is entrapped in worldly pursuits. Most human beings are stuck there, struggling and suffering in the service of their ego but always holding others responsible for their continuing unhappiness. If and when a person becomes aware of the ego’s abased situation, by starting to work on himself, he can move to the next stage, which in a way is the opposite of the previous one. Instead of blaming other people all the time, the person who has reached this stage blames himself, sometimes to the point of self-effacement. Herein the ego becomes the Accusing Nafs and thus starts the journey toward inner purification. In the third stage, the person is more mature and the ego has evolved into the Inspired Nafs. It is only at this level, and not anytime before, that one can experience the true meaning of the word “surrender” and roam the Valley of Knowledge. Anyone who has made it this far will possess and display patience, perseverance, wisdom, and humility. The world will feel new and full of inspiration. Nevertheless, many of the people who reach the third level feel an urge to dwell here, losing the will or the courage to go further. That is why, as beautiful and blessed as it is, the third stage is a trap for the one who aims higher. Those who manage to go further reach the Valley of Wisdom and come to know the Serene Nafs. Here the ego is not what it used to be, having altered into a high level of consciousness. Generosity, gratitude, and an unwavering sense of contentment regardless of the hardships in life are the main characteristics accompanying anyone who has arrived here. Beyond that lies the Valley of Unity. Those who are here will be pleased with whatever situation God places them in. Mundane matters make no difference to them, as they have achieved the Pleased Nafs. In the next stage, the Pleasing Nafs, one becomes a lantern to humanity, radiating energy to everyone who asks for it, teaching and illuminating like a true master. Sometimes such a person can also have healing powers. Wherever he goes, he will make a big difference in other people’s lives. In everything he does and aspires to do, his main goal is to serve God through serving others. Finally, in the seventh stage, one attains the Purified Nafs and becomes Insan-i Kâmil, a perfect human being. But nobody knows much about that state, and even if a few ever did, they wouldn’t speak of it.

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 http://www.sarahpetrunoshamanism.com/blog/

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8 Signs You’re a Shaman

1. You enjoy puzzling out and solving mysteries

A Shaman’s job is to get to the bottom of an often long held mystery of the human body and Spirit. . . and solving it. Love puzzling out and solving mysteries – from mundane to sensational, from watching crime shows to the very end, to figuring out who left a secret gift on your coworker’s desk?

A Shaman uses this skill and interest, translating it to healing and providing solutions to others.

2. You like to psychologically or emotionally evaluate others

A mystery of another form, if you find yourself trying to figure out and understand the issues that another faces (from the perspective of a desire to provide more compassionate care and support) in a way, this is figuring out a better way to provide healing to someone else.

You’re figuring out the way that you, or anyone, can provide the best support as someone else heals and navigates a difficult journey.

A Shaman has to find the root cause of an issue, and provide guidance and tools to best support another in their journey.

3. You commonly make excuses for those that you love – always choosing the more compassionate explanation

You always try to approach a difficult situation from the perspective of compassion. If someone else you know or love, fails in some way, lets down expectations, doesn’t keep promises, or struggles to keep their end of the bargain, you always give a second chance.

You always offer a compassionate and kind hearted explanation. You see the potential of a inner heartache and pain, and you shine your light of kindness upon it.

A Shaman understands that most deviations from ideal self, times where one struggles, and times promises are not upheld, are almost always reflective of an inner healing journey underway.

4. You involve yourself in problem solving, planning, and strategy

You excel at planning, finding solutions, and always having a strategy to navigate a situation. You frequently run through game plans and outlines of events in your mind, and see the idea through to the end with several possible outcomes. Shamans need to be able to come up with solutions on the fly, and quickly develop a strategy. A healing is an unfolding journey, each one different than the last, with a new path to traverse to achieve healing, and a new direction to take.

A Shaman needs to be able to quickly create a strategic plan of action, in the moment.

5. You’re really good at matching scents to memories or scenes

You have an excellent memory for scents, sounds, and sensations – easily able to match them with the appropriate scene. This is a sign of clairvoyance, a psychic ability often integral to Shamanism. You are able to match an idea, with an image. Create a picture to match the sensation you experience. If you’re able to describe it with ease, even better.

A Shaman needs to provide vivid imagery and descriptions of the scenes perceived during a healing, and it provides the client with an easily tangible example what’s going on, as having a picture, often makes the healing easier to bring into the physical world – with a physical world example.

6. You intuitively know what needs to be added to a recipe or what’s missing from a meal

This is an element of creativity, and it’s trait that’s directly linked to the degree of your connection of your own inner Spirit. Creativity comes from your Spirit, and generally, the more creative you are – the more spiritually connected you are. A Shaman performs the healing at the level of spirit, connecting their Spirit, with your Spirit, and Spirit above.

As a Shaman, you need to be strongly connected to your own inner Spirit, and well honed recipe creation and perfection is a sign of creativity.

7. You enjoy pondering and evaluating your day

Evaluating and pondering your day is a type of integration. At the end of the evening, you enjoy taking a moment (or moments) to reflect and consider all that’s gone on in your day. You consider the lessons learned, the things you would do differently next time, and the highlights, carefully walking through each transitional moment, great and small. Some may call this fretting, but you can do so peacefully, objectively and reflectively.

A Shaman emphasizes the need for integration and consideration – for themselves and for others, as it’s essential to healing and growth as an individual.

8. You have interest in Shamanism or alternative healing

You’re reading this list right now and you’ve clicked on the link. You’ve always been intrigued, even just a little, by non westernized or modern medicine based healing modalities. You’ve always postulated that there could be truth and legitimacy in these methods, and you’ve acknowledge their ability to help others. You believe in the power of positive attitude, mood, and energy.

A Shaman needs to be called, subtly or strongly, to the art of their craft.

If one or more of these things sound like you, you may unknowingly be a Shaman or Shamana.

Welcome!

With love,

 

Beautiful

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We are beautiful. Beauty is found in the rising of the sun.

Beauty is in your attitude of genuine concern, friendliness and happiness for another.

Beauty is having a glowing smile.

Beauty is wanting to serve, to mend the broken.

Beauty is not seen but felt deeply within your heart.

Beauty  is one of the wonderful gifts of having an open heart.

We need to stop more and enjoy the pleasures of being.

Resting and absorbing the beauty around us.

Beauty of listening to a song that we love.

Beauty of making someone tea after a hard day.

Beauty of hugging your loved one, giving comfort.

Beauty of looking deeper within and knowing that it will be ok.

Beauty of meeting someone amazing who shines brightly far and wide.

Beauty of knowing that good will always overcome the bad.

Beauty of gratitude of great Spirit.

Beauty of the Universe that we are connected to a great source of Magic with  Love.

Knowing that beauty is not contained in a shape or size, but a heartfelt feeling of

Loving oneself.

Beauty of loving unconditionally because You can and want to.

Beauty of overlooking the flaws of humanity and knowing that only you can change you.

Beauty of Being beautiful even when its hard, tough, intense but it will bring forth a greater strength within.

Beauty of knowing your self worth of being a amazing human being, to be you.

by Colleen van Heerden

 

 

Dear Woman, you are not a man.

 

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Dear Woman, you are not a man.

You are a woman, you have a Vagina, so you are different, YOU feel more.  

You are not weak but men would want you to believe you are weak.

You are not. You are powerful.

You are beautiful. You are smart.

You are soft, but will fight when you need to, letting your warrior out.

You are called to serve others needs, sacrificing you.

You have taken on Womanhood, motherhood and You loose parts of yourself in serving these roles.

Don’t be afraid, you are not alone. You can be strong and ask for help.

You can say enough, I need this.

You can be vulnerable and cry.

You can share your feelings.

You can be the amazing woman, you were born to be.

It starts with LOVING you, Nurturing you and becoming whole on the inside.

Stop suppressing your female side or subduing who you are.

Walk slower, Drive slower, talk with passion. Play. Paint. Read a book.

Dress fabulously and create whatever you desire.

Enjoy the pleasures of a great lover, a friend, some good wine, eye rolling orgasms,

Enjoy massages, reiki and healing.  Be You!

Life is short, don’t empty yours by forgetting who you are.

Remember, remember, you are a woman! Be a woman.

 

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1year, 6 months and 6 days later : Distance healing story

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We met online 1 year and 6 months and 6 days ago. I started a blackberry channel called Be Inspired, it was aimed at promoting healing, wholesome living and to be Inspired, I have had 167 000 visitors since, I have 1350 subscribers from all over the world.

She sent me a message and I gave her my bbm pin on the 26th May 2014. On this first day, we chatted for 24hours, she asked questions, we talked about Spirit, she was house bound, you see. She was in an accident, she had been blind sided by another vehicle, both her arms broken, her physical injuries were many, and she was diagnosed with Post Dramatic Stress Disorder.

She hadn’t left the house in Months. She didn’t go outside, she lived hidden, away from the noise, away from the sirens, away from the chaos in Los Angeles, California. 

She was forced to move into  her parents home, she was uncomfortable, stuck, no hope.

We worked on healing her body, mind and spirit, and to this day  3 December 2015, I have been sending her distance healing. (Myself and WP counselling her and assisting her)

The REIKI energy and re igniting spirit within her and counselling gave her the confidence to walk to the outside gate, to walk to the shop, to take a bus and to drive, to start living again, and to work again….

Two years later, she has done her level 1 and level 2 REIKI, she will be arriving on 3 December 2015.

This is the first time I will meet her in person. The person I have assisted in healing, assisted in protecting, shielding, helping her heal and restore her life back to some form of functionality.

I write this blog in awe of the magic of what healing can do, in awe of how a complete stranger’s life that has been transformed, changed and a new journey started.

She is a private person, so I cannot disclose her name or details, but maybe you’ll be meeting her here, soon. I will be training her in Reiki Masters and assisting her in a deeper healing process of renewing herself.

 

 

 

 

An ode to Anger by Claire R : A special lady : www.growingfree.co.za

An ode to anger

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Anger is beautiful. It is a self-preserving, self-defining emotion. It is instinctive and protective. It is with anger that we know who we are and where our boundaries lie. Anger is not violent or destructive. It is only a feeling. The fact that we often abuse its power and use it to hurt those around us has confused many as to its real purpose. For a long time I never saw anger as acceptable. But I cannot control my emotions anymore than I can control the weather.
Anger came, as it should, but in an attempt to hide from it I turned it inwards, damaging my self-esteem and leaving myself vulnerable to exploitation. It is only through watching my daughter grow that I have learnt the value of each and every message from her soul. Anger is not designed to hurt but to protect. It forges our identity and independence and it drives us to act. As I validate and value her expressions and experiences, I learn to do so to my own.

But I learn much more slowly than she does. I find the path narrow and strewn with debris. I pick my way through the rocks of others’ misguided understandings and expectations of who I used to be. In many spiritual traditions we are told to turn away from anger. But to do so is to turn away from ourselves. My experiences with Colleen at the Midlands House of Healing* have opened a door to a new understanding of this emotion. Under her nurturing hands I give myself permission to not be a flawless image of a person, but to rather live fully, as me, a human and real. I can feel anger, experience it and accept and love it as a part of who I am. I value myself highly enough to appreciate its protective qualities. And I can do so in a state of peace, so that my anger drives growth rather than violence. I can, as Kurt Vonnegut advises, “Be soft.”** Because when my heart is yielding enough to experience the full range of human emotion, it can beat in the moment and then let go of the past, keeping the muscle soft and blood-red. Pulsing vibrant life flows where truth and movement do. It is emotions used dishonestly, to justify violence, and those denied and hidden, which calcify hard and white.

*This post was sponsored. Midlands House of Healing is the only sponsor that I have so far accepted for this blog. Our exchange of skills is something that thrills me and saturates me with gratitude. Encountering someone so talented and devoted to her craft is a rare gift indeed. The work of healing is something Colleen was born to, but to which she has further devoted her body, mind and soul. She bestows this gift upon her visitors not haphazardly but with discretion, tailoring each and every treatment to the body and soul beneath her hands. It is a privilege to enter a healing relationship with her because she takes on her role with such a deep sense of responsibility. To book a session call or message her on 084 603 0604.

**Colleen used a longer version of this prompt to write a moving poem of herself and her days. Read it here.

Be soft

Be soft

 

Be soft, as you hum to the raspberry plants and say thank you.

Be loving, when you stroke Tomtom and he purrs.

Be aware, when you touch, you transmit love.

Be here, as this moment is your now.

Be genuine, laugh out loud.

Be true, Smile more because you can.

Be real, Cry when your heart aches, it lets the pain out.

Be comforting, and hug you.

Be giving, because your heart longs to just love.

Be gentle, because you can.

Be who you are, show true Spirit.

by Colleen van Heerden

 

All women are real and Beautiful

All bodies

 

I love the human body, it is unique in everyway.

Society promotes inadequacy, yet if you can breathe on your own, be strong, do what you love,

Are you not awesome?   I believe we are Awesome Goddess’s! 

I for one never felt comfortable THIN! For the past 8 years I have eaten

healthy, exercised, changed my diet, drank green juices,  explored every aspect of being

healthy and what I have learnt is, Love Your Body and Accept it! and I do.

I accept every imperfection, every stretch mark, every love handle, every muscle, every part of who I am.

No one can truly define what makes you happy, only you.

I am happy, so happy to be alive. To have relationships with nature, plants, my partner, my cat,

my friends and with other human beings on the planet.

At best, I try to live from the heart, to just LOVE, we are all imperfect but love whole heartedly.

Step out of the box of who defines you, and create you for you!

 

10 Simple Things To Make Your Day Happier

10 Simple Things To Make Your Day Happier

Some Inspiring stuff!

Live. Dream. Inspire.

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It’s not difficult to make our days a little more pleasant. Try these 10 things for a happier day:
1. PHOTOS.Display Photos of Loved Ones. Seeing the heartiest laugh of your family or closest friends with you could be something that will warm your heart and make you smile even on toughest of days. Make sure you have photos at places you spend the most time at. If you work in an office, have one or two framed up at your desk. If you are always out and about, save one photo as your phone’s lock-screen. You get the idea.

2. WATER. Contact with water does wonders in healing your stress. You might remember seeing children play in the rain or at water playgrounds, such joy shows up on their faces. Try treating yourself to a long warm shower or a warm bath at the end of the…

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