Well then life happened and I felt the story books of Mills and Boons really told every conceivable lie possible, because life certainly wasn’t the same, so I decided to quit playing cupid this year.
Not without heartache and tears. Here is my story. I journeyed to India in 2008, I met a young man, we’ll call him MR X.
Mr X and I became very good friends over the years. I made a point of visiting when I journeyed to India as he was from South Africa, from Pietermaritzburg in fact, we had great laughs and great fun as friends.
When I returned to South Africa in 2008, we lived in Bethlehem, the Free state. I opened my practise in 2009 and I met a young lady, whom I’ll call Mrs Y. Mrs Y and I became good friends, she studied Reiki with me, I counselled her on many occasions. She visited frequently and we had good laughs about life.
It is now 2014, I was still friends with both Mr X and Mrs Y. I had encouraged them to meet as I felt they would be a good match,
so I introduced them via whats app in January 2014.
I believe in dating and I also know that you truly know a person, once you spend time with them, and I
set a rule that if they were to meet at my “space”,
I would feel it inappropriate for them to sleep together on their first meeting.
Oh My GOD! did this backfire because I felt it was my space and I felt they needed to respect my boundaries.
I was judged, ridiculed and written off.
I have thus been unfriended in so many ways, 3 months ago.
This month June 2014, they were married, pictures appeared from everywhere, name changed and advertised.
I felt hurt for many days, until I decided to not take it personally.
Taking into account, I spoke to them both everyday on whats app.
We chatted as long time friends, I spent 6-7 years being a good friend.
In the sense of friendship, I connected the two of them.
I cried the other because I was heartbroken. I had invested, time, energy, friendship in both of them.
I then decided I will no longer play cupid, no matter how desperate, lonely, or sad you are.
I decided to look at my own shortcomings, and it was because I didn’t want them to hurt each other with a quick sexual relationship, as I knew them both. I wanted them to get to know each other deeper, so a long lasting love evolved.
So, I happily pack my cupid’s bow and arrow away, I surrender, forgive, bless, release and move onto a stronger me.